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Any tips for dating post op? Everyone wants to "grab a drink" or have dinner. My doctor told me no booze or caffeine for 6 months post op and I'm just 2 months out. Should I just meet for a drink and order Water?

Sleeved 9/12/16

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I always did date 1 in a coffee shop. I always drink water...so non issue. dinner is never a good 1st date idea anyway since if it is going terribly you are still stuck for another hour.

I'm also a fan of activity dates...game of pool, bowling etc...

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Any tips for dating post op? Everyone wants to "grab a drink" or have dinner. My doctor told me no booze or caffeine for 6 months post op and I'm just 2 months out. Should I just meet for a drink and order Water?

Sleeved 9/12/16

Find another first date activity and suggest that instead.

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I think I should rephrase.. what are tips for being in a bar on a date? I like going to nice bars for good date ambiance, so I guess what's the suggestion when you *have* decided to go to a bar?

Sleeved 9/12/16

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If you don't want to have booze or caffeine, order a sprite. I never drink on a first date anyway, and if they make an issue out of it, I know they aren't someone I'm going to be interested in. I'm 3 years out and I can't drink much alcohol without getting super drunk and I can't eat most food that is made with butter, oil, or cream, which largely eliminates dinner options. I stick to salad and diet coke on the first few dates, and the men who are the type of people I would actually like have the social skills to know that one does not comment on what a woman eats or drinks on the first date. You don't need to have an excuse for why you aren't drinking booze or eating crap, and if you feel like you need to provide one, for me that would be an indicator that I probably wouldn't like the person very much if I got to know them better anyway.

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