Post Op and Depression??

rose suongas · September 9, 2007

Great! I'll see you there! I am european looking, with short dark hair and brown eyes and a lime green shirt!

Donna D · September 9, 2007

Hi Peaches

I understand you know the way to the Sierra Grill. I look forward to seeing you and all the others then.

lizster2007 · September 10, 2007

Hey Rose, my appoint is for 1:30 so maybe we'll cross paths! Hope you feel better soon.

rose suongas · September 10, 2007

lizster, what do you look like?

Doddie63 · September 10, 2007

HI; Some husbands feel threatened when their loved one starts to loose weight. They feel very secure with the "plump" us, then when we start to loose and develope a figure, they feel er may have other attention. This they can't handle. Also, it is a form of emotional abuse to not compliment or pay attention to a weight loss. Sort of like a power trip. Whatever, try not to let is matter. Give yourself a hug, use us as your source of encouragement and leave DH hangups to him. Doddie

Lianna170 · September 10, 2007

Hi Rose,

I'm really sorry to hear what you are going through with your DH. It is hard to make our husbands understand what we have been through and are going through now. I can understand that they may think "here we go again" with another diet. But I also think part of it is they are used to us being a certain way and it is threatening to them for us to change. No doubt, other men will take notice of us as the weight drops off and I think if we use that as a weapon and throw it in their face it makes the situation worse, not better.

As I told you before, I have been down this road before (having lost a ton of weight) and have lived through being the invisible fat woman and then the very visible and attractive slim woman. It is hard for our significant other to deal with and I divorced about a year after I had lost all the weight. Now, in saying that, there were a lot of problems before I lost the weight but I can certainly say that I gained much more self confidence when I became slimmer.

So here I am again, back up in weight and going for the surgery to get a permanent solution to my problem. :clap2:

Just be prepared that things will change and it may take a bit of "babysitting" of your DH in order to help him through this change.

Lianna