I got banded in Feb 05 it took me a while but I didn't start to lose weight until oct 06 and it has been coming off steadily 5 to 6lbs a month. I am pretty happy about that because I wanted to get it taken off after the first year when it didn't seem like I was going to lose anything. Well after all this my mother is not the mothering kind and I have come to terms with that but I can tell she is jealous because she doesn't accept the fact that I have lost weight (75+lbs so far) so she always wants to give me clothes and that are 3x or 4x size clothes. When I tell her that certain clothes I wear I can wear a 2x or a 1x now depending on how they are made. She still gets me clothes in a 3x or 4x and I can only wear it as a sleep shirt because they are so big. I told her to stop giving me clothes because I don't need them ( she works for nike and gets giveaways twice a year). I mean who doesn't like free stuff but she makes me feel that I am still huge true I have a lot more weight to lose but I feel good that I can wear smaller clothes. Eventhough she doesn't say encouraging words to me she asks me do I think she could get a lap band done because she can't seem to get the weight off.:angry

I mean I want to show off how much I have lost and how good I feel about my self but their always seems to be someone around me who wants me to feel just as miserable as they are.:eek:

She gets so much clothes when she has her giveaways that I went over their and took a few items that are a size 1x and I could fit all of them and it looked good on me:whoo:So I kept them!! She won't miss them.:mad:

Miko at least with cloths that are too big you can still use them. Every Chistmas my MIL buys me cloths that are 4 and 5 sizes too small. My husband understands. He looks at me and gives me a kiss. Tells me he loves me the way I am. Says we'll return the cloths and get something I want. MIL figured out what we were doing. She started to get the items from ABC so I couldn't take them back. The last couple of years I would just give them away (or just forget to bring them home). It hurts because she Knows what size I wear.

maybe you should call her and tell her she's out of the will ... :omg:

Tell your sister that you are leaving her your overdraft. :eyebrows:

Miko at least with cloths that are too big you can still use them. Every Chistmas my MIL buys me cloths that are 4 and 5 sizes too small. My husband understands. He looks at me and gives me a kiss. Tells me he loves me the way I am. Says we'll return the cloths and get something I want. MIL figured out what we were doing. She started to get the items from ABC so I couldn't take them back. The last couple of years I would just give them away (or just forget to bring them home). It hurts because she Knows what size I wear.

Tell yer ma-in-law that the clothes she got you are the wrong size for you but that they will fit her husband's mistress. :heh:

Green that was too funny!

I like your sense of humor!

At first my family wasn't either and I'm sure there are a few like my aunt who have things to say but I am feeling so good about me that it doesn't matter!

At first my mom said why are you doing this?

Didn't ask me about the procedure and didn't care.

Now that the weight is coming off especially in my face and back area she is very complimenting and told me I encourage her.

I slept naked yesterday and she came upstairs without knocking in my bedroom and said man honey you look really nice.

You can really see your weightloss!

Ha! I was like what? Hey maybe I'll go to work naked so they can see my progress!

maybe you should call her and tell her she's out of the will ... :omg:

Awwww, don't you think she should at least get my fat clothes? Heh....

Green that was too funny!

I like your sense of humor!

At first my family wasn't either and I'm sure there are a few like my aunt who have things to say but I am feeling so good about me that it doesn't matter!

At first my mom said why are you doing this?

Didn't ask me about the procedure and didn't care.

Now that the weight is coming off especially in my face and back area she is very complimenting and told me I encourage her.

I slept naked yesterday and she came upstairs without knocking in my bedroom and said man honey you look really nice.

You can really see your weightloss!

Ha! I was like what? Hey maybe I'll go to work naked so they can see my progress!

Congratulations to you from Green, Lawanda jessica! I know that your mum doesn't hand out a compliment easily. :bounce:

Awwww, don't you think she should at least get my fat clothes? Heh....

nope.......

And to think, I was so young.

*bows* My happiest duty is to provide laughter during such solemn times such as these. Once you reach goal, take a photo of yourself and send it to her with "I went to a filthy mexican doctor for a botched procedure and complications, and all I got was this lousy weight loss" captioned on the front.

I haven't had an unsupportive relative yet because the only one I've told is me Mum. Who got quiet, acted rather distracted, and then hurried to get off the phone. She has since avoided my phone calls. :rolleyes

This is a great post. Thanks for the giggles this morning.

As those guys on the Blue Collar Comedy Tour say...

"When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.

Then find someone whose life has given them vodka, and have a party!"

...my sincerest condolances. I think it's clean Canadian drugs that you should've gotten instead of dirty Mexican drugs.

You could tell your sister that it's all related to NAFTA in some way... or the result of Global Warming...

People love the drama, don't they??

Oh thank you guys for this information. I have 3 older sister, the oldest had gastric bypass and the 3rd sister told everyone that she looked like an old lady & shuffled her feed when she walked. Oh so not true, she went from 275 to 117 in 14 months & looks great & by the way she is an old lady of 60. haha. Well I am the baby at 53 and I had lapband on the 4th of this month I am like 3 days into it. I have not told anyone else in my family, cause sister 3 will start the I am dying or went to Mexico or whatever to sabotage our family reunion in Oct. I have lost 35lbs since the first of the year 18 of it post op & I am sure I will drop another 10 to 12 before I go. So they will notice a different, but I have planned to tell everyone at the same time to stop any rumors. I am not sure if I will even to that depends on when we all get there & the mood of the day, my mom is turning 80 so we are all pretty much forced to be together for her sake. I get alone well with sister 1 and sister 2 and I email but are not the closest, sister 3 and I have fought our entire lives, she also fights with sister 1, so who knows how this will turn out. It will be like a daytime soap I am sure.

The idea of sending sister 3 my fat clothes is great. I just might do it, send them to her & her daughter and when I tell sister 1 she will want to be in on it too. Oh sister 3 was always the skinny one, she just recently plumped up there with us.

Again thank you very much for letting me know I am not the only one out there with this problem & yes don't tell anyone.

Wasa... Can I have your cheese crackers?

Oh, and my mom has said several times I need to give the clothes I outgrew to my sister.. who is 18.. And my sister keeps insisting they won't fit, she wears an 18/20. (My hand me downs are 24/26 and 26/28 right now). But she doesn't fit in her clothes anymore, so I think my mom says these things in front of her, to give her a clue.. and I feel bad for her, but I've been there and done that. When I was an 18/20 'back in the day', I refused to move up to 22/24 for a while.. you can only imagine how I was dealing with 26/28 right before surgery, knowing none of my stores go up any more sizes!

Wasa... Can I have your cheese crackers?

HA! What crackers??

Wasabubblebutt

This is too funny and sad at the same time - I guess I am lucky my Family (sis, brother, son & family) and closes friend are supportive...

I like the part about she's out of the will.

Some people are so ignorant...

Wasabubblebutt

This is too funny and sad at the same time - I guess I am lucky my Family (sis, brother, son & family) and closes friend are supportive...

I like the part about she's out of the will.

Some people are so ignorant...

Do you know after she's been running around telling everyone I'm DYING she actually emailed me to congratulate me?

On what, dying?

My family.......