Hi,

I apologize in advance if this is TMI.

I had my sleeve done December 2105. Prior to my sleeve I wanted to have sex anytime, anywhere, etc. Since my surgery I have not had the desire. I am dry and it takes a while to have an orgasm sometimes I do not reach climax. I have seen topics on the board in which other women are having this issue but not seen where anyone indicates there was resolution. This post is meant for women in which their libido has decreased and has not returned. No offense it is not intended for women in which "oh my sex drive is through the roof since surgery". Congrats to you but I am wanting advice on how to proceed. It's been almost 9 months and I am not feeling sex. I have an appointment with my gyno this week but I have a hubby I need to tend too.

I am glad you are going to see the GYN. I know there are things they can do to help you, supplements etc. and also lubricants. You shouldn't have to put up with having no desire.

Why have they not come up with a female Viagra? Because first and foremost with women, you have to feel it in your mind. Check there first. After that I can't see any reason why WLS should have any effect.

@@OKCPirate it's not that simple. while the mind is first and foremost important, there are other things besides the mind involved. hormones also play a big role and can be and are affected by WLS. when you have good lubrication it is easier to get to climax, when you are not then nothing else is going to work correctly. lubrication can also be affected by hormones and just other health issues. seeing the GYN is the first step.

if there are issues in someone's mind due to wls affecting how they feel about their partner, or their body then counseling would be appropriate, but the OP doesn't indicate anything like that.

Thank you @@Christinamo7! Interesting as I thought I started the topic in the "Ladies only room" the Powder Room....

please don't be too upset by that. sometimes if someone is reading on their phone those headers don't always show. assume he didn't realize because it is easy to do. I hope you can find some answers. usually the hormone dump goes the other way but this is not unheard of. or it could be unrelated - but either way you shouldn't have to settle for this.

I'm not I was able to get my appointment moved up to tomorrow. I was a low BMIer and I have no saggy skin. Sex drive was always through the roof now it's flatlined. I will keep you updated.

The sleeve is SUCH a hormone dump and I am betting that you just haven't leveled out yet. It took me a bit over a year to feel back to almost normal. Of course, visiting your gyno is a great idea.

A visit to an adult toy store might be a great stop, too. Some different enhancement lubes, a new toy, something that brings the naughty out...

Funny but true. There is a HUGE adult store directly across the street from my gyno. I can get the kitty checked and then pick up a little treat for later!

Maybe this is out of left field, but are you getting enough fluids in? I have dryness issues when I'm not properly hydrated.

One other thing to look into: it's called the "O Shot". Supposed to increase libido and pleasure. Worth a look.

http://oshot.info

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Lol....yes I'm going to the adult store after my appointment tomorrow since hubby has texted me to get some lubrication. At first I laughed it off but it hurt my feeling as I've never had this issue. I'm getting my protein in and have been working on my water intake. Trying to get to a gallon a day. I will most definitely take a look into the O shot. I should have addressed this issue months ago but thought it would get back to normal. Thank you all for your responses. Thank you @@LipstickLady for sharing your experience.

It could very well be hormonal. I had issues like that when I was on a higher estrogen birth control pill. Weight loss releases a lot of estrogen. Talk to your GYN, and talk to your surgical team.

Meanwhile, try some different lubricants (silicone stays slippy for a long time). You might try something that makes you tingle down there.

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@@Cutepretty1 I have the same issue but it's not because of my surgery, I've felt like this for years, no libido. orgasms are not a problem once we get started, but I never want to do it, I just do it to make my husband happy. For me it's hormones and depression. I went thru a pre mature menopause when I was 39, periods just stopped, skin dried up, no libido, mood swings, atrophied vagina, hair loss, the list goes on. You did not mention your age. Have your hormones checked, do FHS testing, I hope you can get some answers. Lube helps a lot, good luck

I know this topic is a little old, but thought I would throw in my experience in case it helps or hasn't been resolved yet.

I am 22, so I was shocked when I realized after several months... I hadn't been thinking about sex, wanting it, fantasizing or anything... it took me months to even notice it was gone that's how bad it was!

I had an epiphany one day... when I went for a checkup and my surgeon checked my Vitamins he said my Vitamin D levels were low, almost insufficient actually. I did some research and found that Vitamin D is related to libido and started to take a daily supplement until my libido came back and voila, it's back! Still not full force... but much much much improved and I think it was the lack of taking my vitamins that caused it.

@@Cutepretty1 Hi, I did not see you age mentioned anywhere but for me I lost my libido when I went thru a pre-mature menopause in my late 30's. Have had to use lube ever since, my skin overall is drier and my hair got thinner. It's the damn lack of hormones. You can have your hormone levels checked, I would think that by 9 months you would be leveling out but I don't know where you are in your weight loss. If you're at goal and are in the maintainence mode definitely get your hormone levels checked out.

the thing with the vitamin D is acually relatable, the best thing in your situatio would be to check al your hormones and juts completey check your body in order to find out what's missing, why you lost this sex drive.

I've got the same thing because of my meds, one of the possible reasons((