This is supposed to be an exciting time of my life, I just got my own place Friday and I'm still in the process of moving in and then my gastric sleeve gastrectomy is set for tomorrow and so I'm under a lot of stress as it is. I was confident about the surgery yesterday and was still confident today until my grandpa called me this morning and told me that his friend had died from having weight loss surgery and that I should listen to him and not get it or at least postpone it.

Now his friend already had the surgery a while back and lost a lot of weight but he died two days ago. My grandpa claims it's from the weight loss surgery but I'm not sure he knows that for sure. I mean the guy could've had preexisting medical problems, he was in his early 50's as far as I'm concerned he could've died from anything. Am I scared? No. Do I know there's a possibility that I could die? Yes. Am I afraid of dying? No. I talked to a nurse who had a gastric bypass and she reassured me that my surgeon has yet to lose a patient. So I still want the surgery but now it's like I have no joy about it anymore, just opposition from my family and stress. My grandpa also said that if I get sick or need to go to the hospital or anything not to call him for help. I just don't get it.

Then my mom keeps playing games with me. I asked her weeks ago if she would take me to get the surgery and she said she would and to just remind her and keep reminding her so that I don't just spring it up on her at the very last minute and to constantly remind her all the way up until the surgery. Well I've been doing that and then she gets mad and says that I keep asking her the same questions too much. She has started playing games saying she's not going to take me after all. I know she isn't just saying that, she has flaked out on me before. So now it looks like I'm taking the bus tomorrow. I don't know how I will get home but I'll worry about it when it's time to leave the hospital. I'm just so sad that complete strangers like everyone here at bariatricpal, the guy at the grocery store, even the guy at GNC have been so supportive and helpful but I just can't get that from my family.

Edited April 6, 201610 yr by crazygoose

So I had my surgery and it was a success! My mom did take me to my surgery (got me there a half hour late then blamed me for not rushing her enough even though I did and got yelled for it) I called my grandpa after my surgery and he was being nice to me.I'm alright, feeling good actually although my blood pressure is a little high and heart rate is kinda low but I don't feel it and have been walking around with no problem. I have so much energy as well. Once again thank you all for your support and encouragement as well as kind words with it I regained my confidence and hope. For that I love you all!!!

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Edited April 7, 201610 yr by crazygoose

Ugh did it again and can't delete this from my phone. >.<

Edited April 7, 201610 yr by crazygoose

@@crazygoose So glad you are doing well and you had a ride (despite the stress she caused). Also glad grandpa responded well. Remember sip, sip, sip and walk, walk, walk!!

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@@crazygoose - So glad you are doing well -

You 'got this' -

keep walking

keep us posted

How are you getting home.

I am also in Florida or I would offer to help....

Maybe we should put ourselves out there in our local area - for other "pre-ops" dealing with ride drama -

If you are in Jacksonville area - I can POSSIBLY help with a pre-op or post-op ride, if given notice... I work M-F so I need some notice!

@@crazygoose glad you are doing well! I'm glad your mom was able to drive you and that your grandpa was nice to you. Sometimes people say things they don't mean...hope that was the case with your grandpa. I'm sure he will be happy for you once you start losing weight and feeling better.

So happy to hear all went well. As others have said: sip, sip, sip and walk, walk, walk. I hope you don't have any trouble getting a ride home at this point. Maybe now that the surgery is over and there is no going back, your mom and grandpa will choose to focus on the future instead of continuing to give you a hard time.

Yay! So glad you are feeling well and doing well and glad everything sort of worked itself out for you. Remember we are here if you need us

Yay! So glad you are feeling well and doing well and glad everything sort of worked itself out for you. Remember we are here if you need us

Yay! So glad you are feeling well and doing well and glad everything sort of worked itself out for you. Remember we are here if you need us

So I had my surgery and it was a success! My mom did take me to my surgery (got me there a half hour late then blamed me for not rushing her enough even though I did and got yelled for it) I called my grandpa after my surgery and he was being nice to me.I'm alright, feeling good actually although my blood pressure is a little high and heart rate is kinda low but I don't feel it and have been walking around with no problem. I have so much energy as well. Once again thank you all for your support and encouragement as well as kind words with it I regained my confidence and hope. For that I love you all!!!

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I am so glad you are doing well. I am also glad that your mother was able to take you, even with the delay. She sounds like a real piece of work.

They won't let you leave on public transportation or even a medial van service if they're like all of my doctors.

But the risk is always there - it is major surgery and going under to sleep but ... rare.

I am so glad everything went well and you are on the road to recovery!

Welcome to a whole new beautiful life!

@crazygoose I know that family sometimes has a really screwed up way of showing they care ... especially if they don't know how ...

If your family is used to you being heavy and dependent upon them and others for your everyday needs ... and now you're having surgery and got your own place, etc ... you're becoming independent and don't NEED them as much anymore ... they are feeling left behind ... and sometimes people who feel like that, cannot accept change ...

I'm not defending ... because certainly there isn't any defense for their acting / treating you that way ...

but sometimes things are easier seen from those on the outside ...

hope you're well and congratulations !!!

@@crazygoose How are you feeling now??

Once again thank you everyone for your kind words and support. @Twinkle Toes I actually feel really good I had to ask the nurses several times if I even got the surgery and they said yes.

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Edited April 7, 201610 yr by crazygoose

Hope you are well! Thinking of you!️

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