I have a tremendous fear of regaining the weight that I've lost. I was going through some recent pictures of the 3 family members of mine that have had WLS. Two had Gastric bypass and the (blonde pink shirt) had sleeve surgery 6 months before I did. All have regained weight, they don't look like they even had surgery. None of them ever reached any goal. These are current post (last week). The part that aggravates me is the excuses they come up with and the comments about how I'm just "lucky" that I lost so "easily". I see all the food post. It's not my place to call them out on the food they are eating. Seeing this can be discouraging at times but most of the time it makes me want to do anything possible NOT to end up like that. Maybe I'm wrong for using them as my motivation to succeed but it does scare me. I never know what to say when the remarks come in about how well I've done and all my so called "luck". What do you do?! I keep these pictures as my reminder of what can/will happen if I don't stick with my plan. Which just helped me stop at 6 1/2 Cheetos! Of course I've blocked all identity from the pictures for their privacy. Its not "luck" it's a constant "just say NO!" Attitude I have to food. It's not easy, it's never going to be easy. That's my reality. It's just a tool nothing more and nothing less.

This is scary as someone just operated on. I really want to do it but fear is so real. I hope I can. It's quite scary! I hope I have the tenacity you have @"Elode".

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I'm not even sure what's happening anymore!

@@VSGAnn2014 has a woody.

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I used to think the same thing. How is it physically possible to eat enough to gain weight!?

Here's an example. I'm 15 months out, and for the first time since I've been sleeved, I've been having some personal family issues, and although I am usually tried and true and stick to my plan 90% of the time, the stress got to me and I wanted to EAT. Yeah, I know. Old habits die hard.

Anyways, I went to this deli. It had a sandwich called "The Gobbler". Thanksgiving dinner in a sandwich. You know, the works...stuffing, turkey, cranberry, mayo. Yummo. I even did the responsible thing and looked up the calories....750. I don't even want to know the carb count. So what's a bariatric patient to do? Order it, of course!

I ate a quarter of it. I was so full!

Then I ate a quarter more a little later. Then another quarter. By days end, I had eaten the whole sandwich. All 750 calories and a gazillion carbs.

That's the kind of stuff that will become habit if you don't watch it. And by "watch it" I mean really get to the core of why I want to grab the first comfort food as soon as things go wrong in my life. It's a work in progress. I'll get there

@@LipstickLady Oh....nice, who's it for?

@@Babbs Oh it can happen so easily! I could literally eat an entire bag of Cheetos In a day if I wanted. They dissolve and don't take up mush room in the stomach. I wouldn't but I could. I still have massive restriction which as really helped me. Regular foods like chicken, crabs meat, steak ect...fill me up fast with a small amount. It's the junk food that goes down so easily. I have to stay away from things like that!

@@Stevehud Technically depending on whether Miller is a male/female (no information given on gender) If Miller is in fact a female she is still within normal limits. The very tip of normal range but still normal so she's not dangerously thin. Courtesy of the CDC.

@@miller1109 Sorry I don't know if you're male or female since it doesn't say? I am assuming female? Correct me if I'm wrong.

@@SaraSleeves You will! Don't be scared just be mindful!

@@LipstickLady Oh....nice, who's it for?

DUH!

ME.

I'm still bending my twig in the way it should grow.

That's what HE said.

LOL.

This brings a whole new meaning to "exploring one's roots"!

And there it stood, like a mighty oak!

Since it was said by a female, wouldn't the better choice of a tree be the "pussy willow"?

(I didn't just say that! Me bad.)

Thanks BP you almost ruined my joke. The word was "Pu$$y Willow".

(Is that a tree or a "bush"? )

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My friend had it about a year and a half ago. She hasn't gained, I don't think, but she's been stalled for a long time. But I see the same thing -the FB recipes she makes, the rich coffee she's drinking, etc. Although I didn't want to hear about people who failed at first, I do think it's a good reminder to not waste this gift we've been given.

I'm also terrified to regain weight. One has to be careful with this fear. It keeps me on track and honest for the most part but it is also exhausting to do afraid of it after awhile.

I've ended up underweight because I'm too scared to up my calories. It's easy to slip into black and white thinking.

At some point one as to come off of a diet- you just can't diet forever! Trusting in your body and allowing for some wiggle room in the diet.

I think people regain weight for one of two reasons. A lack of commitment to change in the first place and not really liking being thinner OR such dramatic dieting that eventually they can't handle it anymore and begin to overeat instead.

I think the key to maintainence long term is moderation and portion control combined with mindful eating, and the occasional check to make sure things are still on track. Being more relaxed and allowing some fun foods and not having to count every bite each day.

I wish I could get there myself.

I think the key to maintainence long term is moderation and portion control combined with mindful eating, and the occasional check to make sure things are still on track. Being more relaxed and allowing some fun foods and not having to count every bite each day.

I wish I could get there myself.

I think that's the key to maintenance too, Bella. I believe you will get there. You just have to practice.

I have a friend on another WLS forum who's discovered she needs over 2,000 calories a day to stop losing weight and to maintain. She's asked for advice about what foods to eat. Suggestions include that she eat in moderation: nuts, whole milk, sweet and white potatoes (but not fried), whole grain brown rice, high-fiber breads, whole grain pasta with meats, a few treats (dark chocolate), and more.

I'm not a fan of eating fast food or junk food or sliders to get calories up. But there is a much larger variety of healthy foods out there we can eat in maintenance than those we concentrated on during our weight loss phases.

Maintenance deserves a LOT of focus and concentration. Frankly, maintaining our weight is why we worked so hard to lose the weight. This is the real game we came to play.

Have you tried suggesting to them to get the support that they need from OA or elsewhere? Have you talked with them about how it's just as important to address the emotional issues as the physical ones to set yourself up for success? I'm sure that you have already. It is just very very sad as you say but perhaps try to cut them some slack and be thankful that you have the skills and tools to deal with your issues even though they aren't there yet. And it is possible they never will be. As much loss and grief and trauma I have been through that got me to my pre-surgery place, when I think of what others are going through and dealing with (films like "Precious"), then I can just be so grateful that I didn't have it much worse. But easier said than done and I certainly have a super low frustration tolerance and a super high amount of venting re stupid people!!!