I skimmed the "Forum Rules," but spotted nothing that addresses my question.

Is it considered offensive or a shocking breach of etiquette at BariatricPal to post in a topic under a other-gender-only heading? I noticed one in the "Recent Topics" list (right side of screen) and, reading the posts, thought I'd like to make a few serious and light comments; the topic really is interesting not only in view of losing weight, but in societal terms, too.

Now the confession.... I did post, but not my primary comments. Mentioning that I had to go learn to use the "multi quote" feature, I also wrote that, if the participants told me not to come back, I would respect their choice and would also "unfollow" the topic.

What's the practice around here? Do the "one-gender-only" topics mean that the other gender is unwelcomed or does the designation simply indicate that the topic is of particular interest to the one gender?

Yes, I know that I'm over-thinking and perhaps even over-fretting this. So be it.

As I was wondering how long it would be until someone noticed that one

Were you disappointed? I would have been on it much sooner, but I'm forever battling BP's bloody, baffling technology.

Sometimes the discussion is such that it really is more neutral. No one can stop you from lurking. That's the price we pay. I think you asked nicely (thank you very much) and the guy who started the thread should respond.

I'd been back there to add a note saying I'd leave of my own accord and wish everyone well. The next note was from the originator. Without saying it in so many words, he made it known that he'd prefer my absence. Ships in the night.

It's asked that men not post in female only topics (they are for women only) and females are not to post in male only topics. There have been sensitive bunnies (cough cough men)in the past unfortunately, so that's the way it is!

We do have a forum for both men and women to share more delicate topics here:

http://www.bariatricpal.com/forum/1183-where-venus-and-mars-collide-new/

I'll admit, half the time don't see the designation until I've already opened my fat trap and typed up a response and hit post. I try to be mindful if it's a Guys only thread. Unless both start posting. And it gets fun. Then all bets are off

I've sometimes unknowingly stumbled on a female-only thread (they show up in the trending topics list sometimes with no designation they are women-only). I've found often these end up discussing very female-oriented topics that I am certain females would not want me responding to (and might be less inclined to discuss in a mixed forum).

There have been times I have been sorely tempted, such as when I see guy-bashing or stereotypes of male behavior. But I have decided women have a right to have a place they can vent with other ladies and not expect men to butt in on their conversations.

So I kinda expect women to have the same consideration for men. Maybe a guy has a topic where he wants just male responses, or is very specific to men. Women should respect that need, and not post on those topics.

Posting accidentally is fine, and most people will really be cool about it. But I do think it is a breach of etiquette to do this intentionally or frequently.

Now, as for reading them, just remember all topics are readable by anyone.

It's asked that men not post in female only topics (they are for women only) and females are not to post in male only topics. There have been sensitive bunnies (cough cough men)in the past unfortunately, so that's the way it is!

We do have a forum for both men and women to share more delicate topics here:

http://www.bariatricpal.com/forum/1183-where-venus-and-mars-collide-new/

But we can still get in and watch....I mean read.

I had to go track down the thread just to see if I could figure out this mysterious word.

I had to go track down the thread just to see if I could figure out this mysterious word.ImageUploadedByBariatricPal1445377827.622980.jpg

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Duckface

Got to look in the right place

I had to go track down the thread just to see if I could figure out this mysterious word.ImageUploadedByBariatricPal1445377827.622980.jpg

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Duckface

Got to look in the right place

Speaking of the girls and boys, folks, I hope you've noticed that I didn't want to know about a particular word from the all-boys' topic, believing that it means something ugly. I also hope you've noticed that @@OKCPirate showed the courtesy of asking the originator of the topic to decide on my presence. Notice also, please, that he does not extend that courtesy to me, evidenced by his mounting it in a post in this topic, one which I originated.

What say? Pirate must walk the plank? He's thick as a plank?

Oh, all right, I looked. My expectation was misplaced. It isn't an ugly, demeaning or otherwise irksome description. It's just dumb. I can live with that.

But this doesn't mitigate Pirate's inconsiderateness and disobedience.

That's a lot of attention being unleashed upon @@OKCPirate there @@WLSResources/ClothingExch

Do you think maybe that's because you loooove him?

Ooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhh... Loversssss

@@WLSResources/ClothingExch "What say? Pirate must walk the plank? He's thick as a plank?"

Post WLS, getting closer to only being that thick

But what did I do now?

Disobedience? Did I walk into some sort of dominatrix thing?

I have looked for the gender only rooms I guess I can't see them because I only use my phone. I replied to something earlier today and after I got the feeling it was a guys only topic... Oops what do you do it was in my timeline!

@@cookies_queen I've noticed as well that on mobile it just lists threads and not the path that shows guys/girls only. I don't think it's that big of a deal but others do.