Stupid things people say when they find out you've had surgery....

[reree6898 1,164]

I agree with @vsgann2014. That woman should be reported, that is very unprofessional and rude. By the way, amazing job with your weight loss!! Very inspiring! ????

[gpmed 623]

I had the nurse practitioner at my dr office tell me I'm disgusting because of the extra skin you can't win if your fat people have to say rude things you lose weight they still say rude things I guess there is no basic respect anymore

That's bullshit. The extra skin would be there whether you lost weight after WLS or another way. So you're just not supposed to lose weight at all? She sounds jealous. And commenting on the aesthetics of a patient's body is unprofessional and mean. I agree that she should be reported.

[Newtum 49]

the MORNING of my surgery, one of the surgical nurses said "and why are you having this surgery"? being sort of flustered, I said "because I'm sick of struggling with this". and she said "you know this isn't a quick fix, right?" while the other nurse dramatically rolled her eyes and they exchanged looks. I was pretty furious. Yes, lady, I did my research before having this massive operation. Sorry I didn't have my solid reasons all stacked up and ready to go at 5:30 a.m.!!

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

I need to calm down. These posts really piss me off.

Jeez -- I know that surgical teams and pre- and post-surgery nurses see a lot of f**ked up people in f**ked up situations. But jeez, it seems there's a real pattern of verbal abuse going on here.

I have my own story: Four weeks after VSG surgery I had to have my gall bladder out. My attending anesthesiologist said, "Why in the world did you have WLS -- you're not big enough for that."

Of course, he didn't see me before I lost 11 pounds pre-op and 10 pounds post-op, when I weighed "only 236 pounds" at age 68, could barely walk and was agoraphobic and miserable.

Who the f**k are these so-called medical professionals who make such uninformed, snarky judgments -- and then f**king share them with you just before surgery?!

(gotta calm down)

[gpmed 623]

While many medical professionals display a great deal of professionalism and give great care, I think some may need professional training about bullying. I honestly believe some have no understanding of the great power differential that exists between patients and caregivers. The hospital is a good example. We're depending on medical professionals to care for our basic needs. We're feeling our worst and looking our worst. It seems obvious that rule #1 should be don't talk about religion and politics. At my last pre-op appointment, the radiology tech talked politics while pressing very hard into my ribs during a sonogram. He also asked a lot of questions about my surgery, even though my body language and short answers should have indicated I didn't want to discuss it with him. Then my first overnight nurse on the floor talked politics after surgery. I felt like I couldn't say anything cause I was depending on her to take care of me and be there when I needed her. I also hardly had my wits about me to get into a political debate. Everyone else involved in my care was wonderful, but these two left a bad taste in my mouth.

[shellyd88 463]

Trust me I wanted to go off on her I don't have a good amount of patience when it comes to ppl like this so I'm better off not saying anything and just trying to remember you can't change stupid there are always ppl who have things to say about something I have enough to deal with in my own life without trying to convince ppl that this was a good decision for me I do agree about her behavior though it makes me mad as hell I'm undecided about telling the dr herself this went on no one else heard it but me and I feel that possibly if this behavior was clearly frowned upon by the boss it wouldn't happen however I having said that this dr has never been rude or nasty to me about my weight or anything so if I tell her and nothing happens and I have to deal with this woman again I won't want to go back there so that's where I am on this...

[Abby1114 5]

Husband wants to tell his parents. What should I do?

I would tell him that it's up to you to tell people and you will, if and when you feel comfortable doing so. I don't think this is something that he should share if you aren't comfortable with it.

I've only told my husband, 2 best friends and HR rep at work and I don't plan on sharing it with anyone else at this point.

[jlcohio 24]

"Why did you do that? You aren't that big." I was over 100lbs overweight.

[LadyK44 263]

I had my surgery on a Friday. Saturday was the day I took my "sip test." The attending physician well let just say he was a "butt!" As I struggled to get my big self out of the wheelchair and in front of the x-ray machine he said "you did this to yourself." My replay "I sure did." I proceeded to have a conversation with him about effects of obesity on my body. The x-ray tech appeared shocked and confused. At the end of the day speaking up made me feel better.

[gpmed 623]

@@LadyK44 what a JERK. Think he says the same thing to alcoholics with the DTs? Or smokers with oxygen tanks?

[Yaberhoo 358]

Thanksgiving dinner last week was my first thanksgiving since being sleeved. I watched my family pile their plates high while I took a tablespoon and a half of stuffing with gravy, one bite of mashed potatoes and about 2 ounces of turkey. Naturally, two hours later I was hungry and ate another two or three ounces of turkey. Another two hours, I was reaching for the turkey again. My sister walks in and finds me digging into the turkey and says "Leave some so we can have sandwiches tomorrow!"

I reacted as I would have before surgery and wondered if I took to much. Then I realized how little I had. I told her that she ate more turkey at one sitting than I had all day and I wasn't making a dent in her 15 lb bird. I reminded her that I said no to my delicious homemade cornbread, the homemade pies, and all the other treats they had. I chose to make a good decision. She agreed.

The next day I went to her house on my lunch break. I got my 2 ounces of turkey and a bite of stuffing. I showed her the plate and said, "I'm eating you out of house and home!" She was offended and became defensive saying "I only made one comment."

I'm still hurt. She made me feel bad and embarrassed.

[bellabloom 2,469]

Well I almost lost it but I thought why bother wasting my breath people will say or think what they want she was giving me a flu shot and lifted my sleeve to access my and said oh that's disgusting about the "wings" on my arms coming from an overweight person herself no less she has been extremely negative about me having this surgery ever since each time I've been there she makes snide remarks and tells me it was the worst decision I ever made etc... Let's see I'm down 200 lbs off some meds it sure wasn't better when I was over 400 lbs call me crazy I think this was a great decision !

You poor thing. That woman is a true bitch. Report her! And I'm sure you're beautiful loose skin or not and you should be proud of yourself!!

[bellabloom 2,469]

Thanksgiving dinner last week was my first thanksgiving since being sleeved. I watched my family pile their plates high while I took a tablespoon and a half of stuffing with gravy, one bite of mashed potatoes and about 2 ounces of turkey. Naturally, two hours later I was hungry and ate another two or three ounces of turkey. Another two hours, I was reaching for the turkey again. My sister walks in and finds me digging into the turkey and says "Leave some so we can have sandwiches tomorrow!"

I reacted as I would have before surgery and wondered if I took to much. Then I realized how little I had. I told her that she ate more turkey at one sitting than I had all day and I wasn't making a dent in her 15 lb bird. I reminded her that I said no to my delicious homemade cornbread, the homemade pies, and all the other treats they had. I chose to make a good decision. She agreed.

The next day I went to her house on my lunch break. I got my 2 ounces of turkey and a bite of stuffing. I showed her the plate and said, "I'm eating you out of house and home!" She was offended and became defensive saying "I only made one comment."

I'm still hurt. She made me feel bad and embarrassed.

It's amazing how it's so easy to feel hurt like we would have before we lost weight. I think a lot of us were treated badly and have some post traumatic stress because of it. Also the lasting insecurities from having been overweight in a very superficial world. It's not easy.

The other day I went to the movies with my kids and their dad. He used to abuse me terribly over my weight. Now keep in mind, I'm underweight and struggling with anorexia. I actually decide I'm going to try and eat- I get the kids popcorn and candy and me a hot dog. I sit down and he looks over and goes "AND you got a hot dog?" and looks at me in disgust.

I sat there sick to my stomach and couldn't eat my hotdog for 20 minutes.

Some people are jerks and they are used to treating us a certain way. It's up to us to put up boundaries.

[LittleBunnyFooFoo 27]

My dad, today:

"So, when are you planning to reverse it (RNY)? 2, 3 years?

[shellyd88 463]

That hot dog is probly bigger than his... Oh nevermind he is an assclown do not listen to anything he has to say