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If you haven't had surgery yet what are you most afraid of?

I'm afraid of dying in the surgery

I'm afraid that I won't loose a pound and I will be a medical sleeve mystery

Anyone?????

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Your fears were mine...not the dying part, but the "not working for me." I too was afraid I would be the one person WLS would not work for and I'd have chased another "miracle cure" just find my hopes dashed against the rocks.

I wish I could transfer to you the "knowing what it's like on the other side", my experiences, and how WLS is unlike any pill or program or diet I was ever on.

The main 2 things I got from WLS was:

1) The overwhelming head hunger I experienced every day was gone the day after surgery.

2) I was physically unable to overeat, even if I wanted to, for months post-op. And that gave me the time to instill new eating and exercise habits that have stuck with me for almost 3 years. Willpower and resisting temptations never became an issue.

Hit me up in a private message if I can answer any questions.

Hope some of these videos help.

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Wow you look awesome I'm glad I'm not the only one..it becomes tricky because I did so much to lose weight that is hard to believe that surgery works because never ever did...

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No one else?

I'm scheduled for surgery on August 31st but I've noticed that the closer I get to surgery day the more anxiety I am developing... Fell asleep at 5 am last night cause of the worry of failing on the pre op diet and not being able to have the surgery then the worry of having the surgery and not being able to eat and having low blood sugars because I'm a type 1 diabetic. Too much going on in my head and I HAVE TO RELAX.. You're not alone

I'm scared i won't wake up and my kids will be motherless. I'm scared I'm gonna do this to feel better physically AND mentally and it won't work. That ill lose weight but I still wont be happy cuz ill have saggy skin and no butt or boobs so I just flipped my insecurities to a different part of my body that I cant fix cuz I dont have money for PS. that ill go through all this and fail somehow. That ill be unhappy cuz I wont be able to love food anymore. I'm scared ill be in excruciating pain when I wake up. I'm scared ill go bald.

I'm afraid of leaks and hair loss I would much rather prefer the hair loss lol. And also weight re gain. And operation complications ... I want to survive for my children and husband... I hate fear it controls you. I was fine til I got my surgery time lol it's 8:15 Wednesday...

Edited by lachellove

The things I'm most afraid of are:

1) Failing-Who wants to be that person that either the surgery didn't work for or it did work but I screwed it up. I just don't want another weight loss let down

2) The excess skin (crazy I know)

3) The hairloss-I just cut my hair (think Jennifer Hudson pixie cut) so I don't want to walk around with bald spots

I just want everything to go smoothly. I don't want to fail at this. I don't wan to be that person that had the surgery and then gained all my weight back and then some. I trying to let all that fear go and just live 1 day at a time but sometimes thinking about the future overwhelms me. Ohhh well as of August 19th my life will change for the better.

I am terrified of failure. That I won't be able to do it and will have wasted all that money. I am also scared of hair loss. I have fine hair already and hair is important!! Also afraid of being nauseated or vomiting.

I'm worried it won't work. I know I have issues with food, emotional eating, and binge eating. If you put something in front of me, I will eat it, hungry or not, no matter what it tastes like (amateur psych analysis-I think this is from growing up not knowing when your next meal was). This surgery, I hope will help by simply restricting the amount I can eat, but I worry that because I have counted calories for so many years, that the extreme calorie restriction the surgery causes will only be temporary too.

I am terrified I won't lose weight and I'll have done this for nothing.

Edited by HopeandAgony

Scheduled for December ...

I'm terrified of (in no particular order):

1. Dying on the table. I know this might be unlikely but the thought that when they put me under that might be my last moment is terrifying.

2. Having major complications such as issues with anesthesia, major leaks, an infection, abscesses, etc.

3. Emerging out of surgery after having been in a coma for many weeks or months because of something bad that happened in surgery. How that might affect my career or my kids and my family. In related to this the fear of waking up without legs or something if I were to throw a clot and end up having them amputated. (this actually happened to someone I read about this past week went to surgery just fine woke up an amputee)

4. I suppose having surgery or not losing weight it's a fear but it's a far more insignificant fear than the other ones.

5. The pain. That it will be worse than people describe or I won't be able to tolerate it very well.

6. That I will not have the positive effects that other people have surgery: i.e. decreased hunger, a quicker feeling fullness after eating, etc.

So I guess welcome to the club. And I guess welcome to the club for me too!

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Sleeve was my first surgery ever ... I was afraid of not waking up ... I was afraid of the pain ... I was afraid of being hungry ... I was afraid of feeling left out because I couldn't dine out for a while ...

notice ... I used past tense ...

After surgery ... things completely change ... I am no longer afraid of anything ...

And give yourself time and the proper support system ... and you won't be afraid anymore either :)

Wow wwboy its like you are my surgery twin. I could not said it better myself. Except #4, I never ever thought of that! Lol oh my word, not a new fear! But I'm not scared of hair loss, I'm not scared of loose skin, I know its gonna happen so I have already started researching how to deal.

I think every day about what if I never wake up from surgery and leave my newlywed husband a widow? Or what if I have complications?!? I have to work, ain't no body got time for that. What if it hurts intolerably? I am pretty helpless when in pain. And last but not least, what if I don't get a grip on my food consumption? And im still suffering from crazy hunger?

Even with all my fears and worries, I am not changing my mind at all. Call it shallow, but I would love to one day look in the mirror and like what I see. I would love to be able to travel and my worry about fitting in seats or being made fun of because of my size. I am moving for the day when I can go into a normal clothing shop and try something on. Instead of buying a shit ton of hand bags and jewelry. And most importantly, I don't want to continue on like this until I develop serious health conditions that could have been prevented.

Wow this phone is horrible! I swear I typed the right words! Forgive the typos people. I'm sure you know what I meant to say.

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