Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

Been using the excuse of my son's death to over eat, and not healthy foods either. I feel as if I am looking for a flavor, what though, I don't know. My stomach hurts, but that hasn't stopped me. I was sleeved on April 3rd. I want to stop this destructive behavior and get back to losing again. Soon I should be able to start walking again, had broken my ankle May 3rd. Any suggestions?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I kind of think that there are times that you get to fall apart and that this is one of them. My advice is to let yourself. I certainly have always used food to suppress or anesthetize the pain to hold it together or avoid stress and I'm guessing you're probably similarly inclined. But if you're at all like me, it doesn't actually make the hurt go away. The only thing that helps is letting myself cry and be sad and rage and write letters with all the things I still needed to say to the person I lost. A couple years ago I lost several people in a short period of time (I started flinching whenever the phone rang) and frankly, sitting on the sofa and crying for several days straight helped a lot more than the Cookies I ate to avoid doing just that. I'd also suggest reaching out to your support group or therapist (or find some if you don't have them already).

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Sounds like you need to increase, or get a more active support group around you. Friends to come over and try take your mind off eating.

Another tip I read was whenever you feel hungry when you shouldn't go brush your teeth. The mint will give you a flavor to smell and taste, and ruin the taste of the food you were about to eat ;)

I'm sorry to hear of your sons death and wish you and your family all the best.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

@@Lynn Hatcher - so sorry to hear you lost your son.

Grief is hard enough, but losing a child is incomprehensible. Please talk to someone -

God bless you and your family~

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Let yourself feel the emotions that you are having. Let yourself cry. Let yourself scream. Let yourself fall apart in order to feel the emotions of losing a child. There is no greater pain and I am so sorry for your loss. Give yourself time to process all that has happened in your life. food will not fix it...find comfort in family and friends. Take long walks and talk to your son...tell him all the things you area feeling. Pray if that is what you do. Find a way to just breathe and take one second at a time.

Again so very sorry for your loss.

Edited by PAB3

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thank you all for your suggestions. I am great full for my WLS family

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

When I get head hunger, and just can't escape it's nagging, I eat meat, chicken or pork first to fill me up and retrain my brain to associate meat with head hunger. After eating Protein, and I still have that nagging little voice, I will allow myself a small portion (remember I'm physically full from the protein), about 1/2 a coffee cup (a real coffee cup, not a Starbucks Grande!) of whatever I'm craving. I'm normally satisfied after that.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • ChunkCat

      I have no clue where to upload this, so I'll put it here. This is pre-op vs the morning of my 6 month appointment! In office I weight 232, that's 88 lbs down since my highest weight, 75 lbs since my surgery weight! I can't believe this jacket fit... I am smaller now than the last time I was this size which the surgeon found really amusing. He's happy with where I am in my weight loss and estimates I'll be around 200 lbs by my 1 year anniversary! My lowest weight as an adult is 195, so that's pretty damn exciting to think I'll be near that at a year. Everything from there will be unknown territory!!

      · 2 replies
      1. AmberFL

        You look amazing!!! 😻 you have been killing it!

      2. NickelChip

        Congratulations! You're making excellent progress and looking amazing!

    • BeanitoDiego

      I changed my profile image to a molecule of protein. Why? Because I am certain that it saved my life.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • eclarke

      Two years out. Lost 120 , regained 5 lbs. Recently has a bout of Norovirus, lost 7 pounds in two days. Now my stomach feels like it did right after my surgery. Sore, sensitive to even water.  Anyone out there have a similar experience?
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Eve411

      April Surgery
      Am I the only struggling to get weight down. I started with weight of 297 and now im 280 but seem to not lose more weight. My nutrtionist told me not to worry about the pounds because I might still be losing inches. However, I do not really see much of a difference is this happen to any of you, if so any tips?
      Thanks
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Clueless_girl

      Well recovering from gallbladder removal was a lot like recovering from the modified duodenal switch surgery, twice in 4 months yay 🥳😭. I'm having to battle cravings for everything i shouldn't have, on top of trying to figure out what happens after i eat something. Sigh, let me fast forward a couple of months when everyday isn't a constant battle and i can function like a normal person again! 😞
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×