Been using the excuse of my son's death to over eat, and not healthy foods either. I feel as if I am looking for a flavor, what though, I don't know. My stomach hurts, but that hasn't stopped me. I was sleeved on April 3rd. I want to stop this destructive behavior and get back to losing again. Soon I should be able to start walking again, had broken my ankle May 3rd. Any suggestions?

No suggestions but I'm so sorry about your sons death.

I kind of think that there are times that you get to fall apart and that this is one of them. My advice is to let yourself. I certainly have always used food to suppress or anesthetize the pain to hold it together or avoid stress and I'm guessing you're probably similarly inclined. But if you're at all like me, it doesn't actually make the hurt go away. The only thing that helps is letting myself cry and be sad and rage and write letters with all the things I still needed to say to the person I lost. A couple years ago I lost several people in a short period of time (I started flinching whenever the phone rang) and frankly, sitting on the sofa and crying for several days straight helped a lot more than the Cookies I ate to avoid doing just that. I'd also suggest reaching out to your support group or therapist (or find some if you don't have them already).

Sounds like you need to increase, or get a more active support group around you. Friends to come over and try take your mind off eating.

Another tip I read was whenever you feel hungry when you shouldn't go brush your teeth. The mint will give you a flavor to smell and taste, and ruin the taste of the food you were about to eat

I'm sorry to hear of your sons death and wish you and your family all the best.

@@Lynn Hatcher - so sorry to hear you lost your son.

Grief is hard enough, but losing a child is incomprehensible. Please talk to someone -

God bless you and your family~

Let yourself feel the emotions that you are having. Let yourself cry. Let yourself scream. Let yourself fall apart in order to feel the emotions of losing a child. There is no greater pain and I am so sorry for your loss. Give yourself time to process all that has happened in your life. food will not fix it...find comfort in family and friends. Take long walks and talk to your son...tell him all the things you area feeling. Pray if that is what you do. Find a way to just breathe and take one second at a time.

Again so very sorry for your loss.

Edited July 13, 201511 yr by PAB3

Thank you all for your suggestions. I am great full for my WLS family

When I get head hunger, and just can't escape it's nagging, I eat meat, chicken or pork first to fill me up and retrain my brain to associate meat with head hunger. After eating protein, and I still have that nagging little voice, I will allow myself a small portion (remember I'm physically full from the protein), about 1/2 a coffee cup (a real coffee cup, not a Starbucks Grande!) of whatever I'm craving. I'm normally satisfied after that.