I'm not sure how I managed to find the topic, but someone was recently lamenting (the loss of) and questioning his/her ability to drink at college parties (at the ripe ol' age of 20 something). The question was posed in possibly the most immature way.

Ever just want to shake people and/or give them a virtual kick in the ass? My initial thought was, really? Grow the F up and get your priorities straight.

The OP sort-of (iffy) redeemed the question later in the thread, but still.

Anyway, I'm not linking to the thread and/or mentioning names, but for the love of whatever, think before you post something. The OP is lucky people didn't go off on her - I know some of you rant & ravers were in the thread and showed major restraint.

Edited July 4, 201511 yr by no onions

wow reading some of these post actually make me not want to post here. If you find a question to be stupid simply don't answer it. Some people actually don't know or they have a very crappy NUT that isn't really helping them be realistic. Others haven't come to the conclusion that weight loss surgery isn't magic yet. oh and BTW 20 year olds arent all immature. If you consider yourself a "veteran" try actually helping instead of belittling people. try to remember how people were towards you when you were first starting

Exactly. I don't think a lot of times these forum veterans and other judgmental posters realise that their hostile approaches to questions deemed as 'stupid' may be putting off others members from seeking needed advice for very valid and pertinent questions.

I find it slightly odd that some forum members are yet to figure out that not all things are created equally especially in terms of the realm of surgery/ medicine and medical programmes. Some folks are berating others for knowing about guidelines about alcohol post surgery but just to illustrate my point about all clinics not being made equal or to the same standards, my bariatric programme/clinicians haven't stated much about alcohol post op apart from a nurse saying that i should bear in mind that if I drink, I would now be intoxicated faster and from smaller amounts'. Nothing about damage to the pouch, empty calories or cross addiction.

I think its more of the posts that say stuff like, "I know I'm not supposed to drink, but I'm doing it anyway at 2 weeks post op.. " and there are quite a few like that..

But I agree..

I agree with you too, those kinds of threads are understandably annoying and I don't think the OPs realise they are kicking a hornets' nest when posting them. But there has to be something said for people who continued to engage them despite being extremely irritated by these questions.

In my subjective view, I feel some posters secretly relish having an opportunity to go at the Ops of these kinds of questions but that's just my opinion

I am 51 years old and I have also seen some hostility here, but I am a firm believer in paying it forward and try to be helpful to ANYONE, I think a lot of veterans forget where they came from and the ridicule that comes along with being obese, I've seen some pretty crappy comments, I became involved in one because the poster was only asking how much weight people had lost their first month, and someone went on a rant with it never even touching on the question, you would have thought they asked who died, lol, I think if there is legitimate concern over a fellow members actions or posting, there is a tactful way to approach them without making them feel like crap, don't leave this forum because of a few soured peeps, your still gonna encounter them everywhere, I deal with them on Facebook, and at work, this a great forum and there are a lot of us willing to help any way we can

BTW it shouldn't matter if your sleeved at 15yo or 70yo, everyone who has been sleeved knows all the negative stuff that came before, the ridicule, name calling and stereotypical associations, so we all deserve a great amount of respect!!!!!!!