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My surgeon signed me up for his support group... Attendance is mandatory, May 11. After surgery on the 23rd of April the nurse hands me an envelope ... I'm thinking it was a bill so I didn't open it until the next day... I blame it on the "pain button". It says Your Cordially invited .. Etc. so Its been 16 days since surgery I've been contemplating on attending.. My head says I need to go but I'm scared.. Especially after only losing 1lb this week ( btw, I think it had a lot to do with my menstrual cycle, it's been on hiatus for two months) anyway I don't want to be judged or embarrassed or feel like a bigger failure and I know it sounds crazy... My sane brain is saying "girl this is what the support group is for" and my irrational brain is saying stay home, your progress is slow honey .., Any of you been to support groups after surgery? How did you feel once there? And we're you happy that you went? And did you feel any judgement. These reality shows have me spooked.. Especially the one where the dr yells at the lady for not losing what he expected. 5-6 lbs a week was my target and I don't want my surgeon to give me that disappointed look. Sorry I'm super sensitive right now PMS and no food for comfort.

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I really think you should go. I don't think your surgeon is going to stand up and point you out to the group and say "Hey look everyone! Coleenrenee has only lost a pound this week! What a failure!"

And if he did, I would highly recommend finding another surgeon....

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The support group might be very helpful, but you won't know if you don't go. Try it. The other participants aren't going to bite you. (Even though some of them might be hangry.)

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Did you attend? If so, how did it go?

I haven't yet been to a post-surgery support group but did attend a post-surgery group nutrition class. My experience with support groups and recovery groups in general has always been positive. I have never regretted attending one.

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Yes, it was great! Got a lot of good tips and ideas for recipes and talking to the others in the group helped a lot. Feels like I've turned a corner plus my husband has started to notice more of the weightloss. I see him peeking at me out the corner of his eyes. I always was asking can you tell a difference and he would always say give it time baby! Well I stopped asking and stopped freaking out and stopped being so impatient and I am losing and he can tell, more importantly I can wear my wedding bands my necklace is no longer a choker

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