Since being sleeved I've told three men (in a dating situation) about having WLS or that I've lost a significant amount of weight.

The first took it in stride with barely a comment and said I looked great. I miss him. Too bad he was such a mess over other aspects of his life.

The second I didn't actually tell I'd had WLS, only that I'd lost a lot of weight. He said something to the tune of it would be an issue for him if I ever got fat again. He was easily 50lbs over weight. Yep, he's gone... long gone!

The third I just recently told. I told him I'd had WLS and that I'd had my stomach fixed through plastics. He didn't say much at the time but later during conversation he commented that one of the things he likes about me is that I'm really smart, then qualified it saying except for in a couple areas in my life. When I asked him what areas those were he said that I let myself get really overweight (and something else I don't immediately recall). Interesting. This is a man for whom fitness has always been a part of his life - he weight trains and other such things and has spent his adult life tinkering with his size - bulking up and that sort of thing. He's currently trying to work on his mid-section. I find this an insulting response and I'm sure he has no idea how kind-of clueless it is. We'll see how this one goes...

Men like this make me want to stay single. I'm not even thinking about dating right now but when I do I will keep my eyes open for jerks like that.

it is undeniable. when you see a single man in their late 30's and 40's you have to understand the reason they haven't found someone else is because they are assholes masquerading as men. their problems are so deep-rooted they can't be fixed by even the greatest compassion. Now i don't mean this of all men, just close to it. There are a few that were able to overcome their past problems, but not that many. Id like to give you wonderful ladies the five warning signs of an a*****e male. here they are in no particular order.

1. He thinks a bar is an appropriate romantic date destination.

2. He has children from different women and doesn't pay child support to any of them.

3. He has other women's names ( not his mothers) tattooed on his body and shows them to you.

4. He doesn't own a tie or a suit, and thinks a tuxedo was the t-shirt he wore to the prom.

5. He tells you how to improve yourself or your life.

if you witness these things, run, do not walk, just get away. It's just not worth it.

speak the truth my brother!

Go walking you are so true with your statement I went from the women with the pretty face and baggy clothes to center attention , all I buy and wear now are dress , high heels and I feel beautiful the attention you get from men and envy you re from women is amazing . It's like the ugly ducking just embracing the beautiful swan she already was . I just had a tummy tuck as well to address the extra skin on my tummy and I'm loving the results as well . It is nice yo gave people open doors for you give you compliments and treat you as a human being not have looks of pity nor snide remakes or be the butt of every joke . If I were not married and I was dating again I would nit share my weight loss surgery with them period that is my past and I am looking forward to the future . You do not have to share everything with everyone .