People change

[Idonerds 136]

I'm noticing that people who never spoken to me before are suddenly speaking to me and at times I find it uncomfortable... I mean I know I wasn't invisible at 378lbs what makes me different at 325 lbs...

[CanyonBaby 1,852]

Any specific reason for this, do you think? Are you referring to your life where you are, or on this website? I'm assuming you mean in your life, so I'm thinking it is because they see a change in you and may not be able to place it yet. Can you see it as a good thing? Although you may be uncomfortable with it, can you smile at them and make small talk until you become more familiar with them? People like to see positive changes other people make in their lives, and you may be an inspiration to them! And congrats on your weight loss, well done!!!

[Healthy_life2 8,319]

@@Idonerds

For some of us it seems that with weight loss surgery you project a positive and confident self image. People seem to approach and talk to you more.

Edited March 17, 2015 by jenn1

[fran70 0]

So good for you,i am getting mine done Monday, 23, very nervous, hope I am doing the right thing. I need it, my health is going down, because of weight, you keep the good work, up, I know people don't know us to much when we are heavy, its it something,,,,, can you give me some advise afther surgery, how you feel. thanks fran

I'm noticing that people who never spoken to me before are suddenly speaking to me and at times I find it uncomfortable... I mean I know I wasn't invisible at 378lbs what makes me different at 325 lbs...

[AvaFern 3,516]

Just wait until you're 187 (your goal weight?)...everyone will talk to you then, lol. I am more open to conversation now than when I was fat, so that could be part of the reason. As you lose weight, you gain confidence. Of course, I am 100% sure that the men that hit on me now would never have given me the time of day 100 pounds ago, so I don't entirely dismiss the fact that people are more interested in being friendly with people who are not overweight. Kind of blunt, but I also tend to think sometimes it is true.

[Tauruslady5 154]

I know the feeling. But......I haven't changed how I feel about those who never talked to me before. When they say how good I look, I just say "Thank you" and go about my way.

If they were not good enough to talk to me when I was 300 pounds, why bother talking to me know. Again, I have not changed I am still the same person, just my body image has changed.

Don't become friends with someone that couldn't be friends prior. Those are not friends at all.

You will make new friends along the way that see you for who you are now and never knew you before.....those are the people I would start being friends with.

Please don't change for them, change for you.,

[Jovie62 135]

I know it's a weird feeling. I've lost about 60lbs between pre op and 4 weeks post op. I went shopping the other day and I actually had sales people from just about every department ask me if I needed help. Before I could shop all day and basically be invisible. It kind of made me sad to think how I was treated before even though I was fully aware of why I was ignored.

[Beachlovinloser 8]

I'd bet it's the energy you are putting off. You have done this for you despite the haters. You are likely exuding a new confidence that makes you more approachable.