I am a very open person, but when I decided to have wls, I decided I was only telling my husband, my very closest friends, and one of my siblings.

I am scheduled to be sleeved in April and have started telling people that I'll be out for a few weeks. I haven't told anyone at work what I'm actually having done, but I never intended to lie about it. I mentioned having gallstones to one coworker (true) and it started going around that I'm having my gallbladder removed (not true, but I went with it.) I had to have a bunch of additional tests, and I was discovered to have gastritis and GERD.

I've had coworkers ask me point blank what I'm having done (not supervisors) and I've started straight up lying. It should be so easy to say I'd prefer not to talk about it, but I've started saying I'm having an ulcer repaired and my gallbladder removed. I feel guilty for lying... but I'm in too deep to come clean now, right? I have been joking that the doctors are "taking care of all kinds of stuff while they're in there" which is technically true, I guess, and leaves the door open for me to tell the truth down the line. My guilt over lying doesn't change the fact that I don't want to discuss this at work.

I don't know. I guess I just want feedback from people who understand. Do I come clean now? Or stop beating myself up about the lies? Is it messed up that I know my coworkers will send flowers, and a good part of the guilt comes from the fact that gallbladder removal feels like an appropriate occasion for flowers, while wls does not?

Additionally I welcome anyone else to share embarrassing wls confessions. If nothing else, misery loves company! :)

Edited March 10, 201511 yr by gofigure

I'd lie. I was honest and my co workers have been nasty to me! It is no ones business! If I had it to do over, I would have only told my husband!

In my workplace I had 2 co- workers that were out for some time and were not discussing why. That led to a lot of people gossiping and speculating. Then I had another co- worker who had cancer and was very open about it. I noticed that no one was talking about him behind his back and everyone was very supportive. I chose to be honest and received a lot of support but can totally understand why some prefer to keep it quiet

I told people for the exact same reason. I felt there would be less whispers about me, my absence and dramatic weight loss and eating habits if i just told people the truth. I've had so much support that I'm very happy with my decision but can understand its not for everyone.

I did exactly What are saying . I only told very very few people . And honestly i regret telling "Close friends" . People can be very judgemental . Just stick with a sustainable lie like someone mentioned . And dont feel bad for lying , it's your privacy.

Edited September 21, 201510 yr by Petunia1

Don't ask don't tell is the way to go. If somebody asks me, I am not going to lie (nobody has asked me point blank as of today), but I would kindly tell the person that he or she heard that in confidence and that I would respectfully ask that it not be passed around. I feel that is a more common occurrence if you have lost enough weight such that you have become unrecognizable. Weight is such an emotionally loaded topic in today's society that courteous people have simply stopped broaching the subject as they would've even a decade or two ago, unless there was genuine concern about your well-being. On that note, it is important to remember that just because nobody remarks doesn't mean they don't realize something huge is going on, and that it is likely that if a person is aware that these sorts of procedures are available, they may suspect that you underwent one, and that they have the decency not to inquire.

If you are dealing with people that are going to look down on you as having taken the "easy way out," well, then you have a few people to remove from your life and conscience IMHO.

DON'T ADD ANYTHING ELSE TO YOUR STORY THAN YOU ALREADY HAVE AND LEAVE IT AT THAT. IT'S NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS. LYING IS WRONG AND I'VE DONE IT TOO BUT PEOPLE ALSO SHOULDN'T BE NOSEY!!!! SO I THINK THEY DESERVE TO BE LIED TO IN A WAY - THAT IS HORRIBLE I KNOW - LORD FORGIVE ME....