What the H*LL happened to you?!

[RJ'S/beginning 5,357]

It always amazes me how people respond to my weight loss. And this was one of the boldest and actually a little accusing of sorts.

I was asked to canvas for the Heart and Stroke foundation on my street. I have never done anything like that before and since they could not find anyone to do it I said sure why not. This last few days I have been able to do it between blizzards. ( Did I mention I hate winder now )

Everyone was kind to me and even donated great amounts. But last night as I was finishing the canvasing, I got a response that made me think say what!

The husband let me in and told me to wait while he got some change for me. As he was going down stairs he asked his wife if she heard the door bell. She said no, who is it. He said I don't recognize her but she says she is one of our neighbors. Who, she asks? He says, I don't know! She says well I need to have a look. she comes up the stairs and says, who are you? I say I am Jane Hess your neighbor. That is when she said the above to me. Then she says you have lost 2/3 's of yourself. I said well I think I lost 1/2 but that's no matter. Which she replies what happened?

I tell her I had a surgery in 2012 and became septic, ended up in a coma and was in the hospital for 5.5 months. Where did you have the surgery she asks. I say Moncton. she said with Dr. B right. I say yes. She said is that why extra mural was at your home for months. And I say yes they looked after me when I got out of the hospital. At the Dumont right! I said yes. She says and this was the interesting part.....

We know what you did. We all know what surgery you had so stop trying to hide it from us. I looked at her blankly and was just about to open my mouth in a well " What I do is none of your F*****G business" when she proceeds to ask me about my children. How many grand children I have and where are my kids now?

The thing is I have not spoken to her in over 20 years. Yes she is my neighbor but we did not get along. So I kept my distance and hoping that her husband would answer the door was ruined when to my delight he did, but then she came up because she is so nosy. So I got my 5 dollars and left.

I really don't give a dead rats tail anymore who knows or who doesn't. I did at first but I no longer have a fear of judgement. How did she know so much about my surgery unless she knows someone who had it done or considered it herself? That I would like to know but was just glad to get the blink out of there....

It never ceases to amaze me how people respond to the new me and what they think they have a right to say...And it was a great reminder why I never had much to do with her.

[katesuccess 990]

Good grief RJ! That's awful - what a witch!

In my field I often find that any conversation I have with someone who is going through some personal angst will be all about their issues, even if we never talk directly about them! --i.e. "How was the concert?" "It was awful and the musicians weren't playing together and the conductor seemed disconnected" -- translation upon further conversation with her was really: 'my kids are a mess and going off on their own directions and my husband is cold and oblivious!'

ABSOLUTELY no excuse, I'm just saying this sounds entirely about her crud and nothing about you. I've read so many of your posts and SO enjoyed them, and there's nothing evasive or hiding in the way you present yourself, and for someone who's not spoken to you in so long to think she knows anything about you....well, I repeat, it's all about her!

Your success and perseverance and very real attitude has been an incredible inspiration to me so many times, and I find I smile each time I see a new post with your lovely picture on it. And what a giving thing to do such selfless work for the Heart and Stroke Foundation! You rock!!

Kate

[RJ'S/beginning 5,357]

three years ago I would not have been at her house at all. Three years ago my back was so bad from the strain of my weight that I could not stand for more then 10 min. I would not have been able to stand there and listen to her bull. I would not have been able to walk the street.

This surgery has been a life saver for me. Even though I have been through so much to be able to even do this canvasing work is something I could not have done three years ago. I am truly thrilled that I can walk and stand for long periods of time....

[allyray 108]

Rj. I am from Sussex, so not thst far away! In our area, there are very few people who have WLS that I know of. So I am very apprehensive about telling people about my upcoming surgery, for the very reason of running into situations like the one you wrote about. It's a shame really!!

[RJ'S/beginning 5,357]

Rj. I am from Sussex, so not thst far away! In our area, there are very few people who have WLS that I know of. So I am very apprehensive about telling people about my upcoming surgery, for the very reason of running into situations like the one you wrote about. It's a shame really!!

Sussex N.B Canada...If so we are no further then 40 min away from each other....How exciting is that....

When I went for my pre-op interview my surgeon told me that he had done WLS on several people in my area. I was like say what! Never knew of anyone. I don't know if I would be out if I had not had complications. But I am glad I tell everyone if they want to listen.......

I am a promoter for this life saving tool.......I know I got a life back..And if I did, there are a lot of others out there who need to know about it!

Congrats on your upcoming surgery...Who is doing it anyway?

[ProudGrammy 8,322]

know what you did. what surgery you had stop trying to hide it

@RJ'S/beginning

do you see me RJ??

my mouth is hanging

unbelievable, unbelievable!!!

she is an unnecessary "blob" on the blackboard

erase it (her)!!

kathy

Edited February 25, 2015 by proudgrammy

[LisaLouBop 181]

How dare you hid your healthyness from her.

The neighborhood narcissist is at it again.

[Blue Sky 89]

She sounds like she is jealous. You were right to move on from her. Keep moving.

[able2cope 193]

I totally agree with Blue Sky - you are so above that kind of cr*p!

[RJ'S/beginning 5,357]

Oh I always knew she was odd. That is why I never spent time with her...And she proved I was right....lol

[allyray 108]

RJ's I am having my surgery done in Bathurst by Dr. Marc Savoie. Just waiting for my surgery date. I had a referral in with Dr. Beausoliel as well, but his wait time is 2 more years..I was referred in 2009 so I decided the extra drive was worth getting it done so much sooner.

RJ's I am having my surgery done in Bathurst by Dr. Marc Savoie. Just waiting for my surgery date. I had a referral in with Dr. Beausoliel as well, but his wait time is 2 more years..I was referred in 2009 so I decided the extra drive was worth getting it done so much sooner.

[melhach 18]

I'm from bathurst post op 2 days with Dr semerjian, come home one day early no pain meds just Tylonal!

[allyray 108]

That's awesome!!! So you're feeling good?

[RJ'S/beginning 5,357]

RJ's I am having my surgery done in Bathurst by Dr. Marc Savoie. Just waiting for my surgery date. I had a referral in with Dr. Beausoliel as well, but his wait time is 2 more years..I was referred in 2009 so I decided the extra drive was worth getting it done so much sooner.

RJ's I am having my surgery done in Bathurst by Dr. Marc Savoie. Just waiting for my surgery date. I had a referral in with Dr. Beausoliel as well, but his wait time is 2 more years..I was referred in 2009 so I decided the extra drive was worth getting it done so much sooner.

Yes I have heard about him. Now there is one in Fredericton. Two in Bathurst. Finally some more help in N.b for these much needed surgeries.

[bellabill 253]

There seems to be a person in every neighborhood like that. What an ass!!!