5'9 women what was your goal weight?

[jess9395 5,448]

Actually I wasn't judging anyone, I was referring to myself. I don't recall stating it was not sexy for EVERYONES ribs to be showing. I specifically said, "Anything less than 170 and MY ribs begin to show...not sexy." In other words I don't believe it is sexy for ribs to show on me. And according to my family and friends...makes me look sickly. Don't see how that statement about ME is judging "Across the board".

I also didn't get WLS to get skinny as @@Big_Mama mentioned. I did this to get healthy. So I completely understood and related to her statement and am not sure why you are taking offense to others opinions.

Ok. Your original wording still sounds to me like you think ribs showing isn't sexy so thanks for clarifying ????

I wasn't taking offense to her post I was confused as to why having surgery to get healthy was ironic! I thought it was the primary reason for most of us. Now I understand she was being tongue in cheek.

Tone is very hard to read on the Internet, I just ask questions to clarify. No one offended me, that pretty hard to do ????

[jess9395 5,448]

I want to be healthy and skinny, I am not going to lie! Lol. I love being skinny and I love to see my collar bones. Still amazes me I can feel my hip bones.

Lol I hear ya! I can't get over that the thing that determines my pants size now is the distance from hip bone to hip bone! Not the inches of fat covering them!

[ProjectMe 909]

Ok. Your original wording still sounds to me like you think ribs showing isn't sexy so thanks for clarifying

I really can care less about other folks' ribs but just to play Devils advocate...so what if I really did feel like ribs showing on others isn't sexy? What if my definition of sexy just didn't include that particular physical characteristic? Doesn't everyone have their own definition of beauty? What about the saying "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"? What if my upbringing, experiences, exposures, or culture defined bones showing as not sexy?

I just don't understand why you chose to refer to my observations about myself as being "judgemental"...isn't it all judgement in some way when we determine what is sexy or what is beautiful? I don't think hair I can braid on a man's back is sexy...there I said it... I guess I'm judgemental.

[jess9395 5,448]

I really can care less about other folks' ribs but just to play Devils advocate...so what if I really did feel like ribs showing on others isn't sexy? What if my definition of sexy just didn't include that particular physical characteristic? Doesn't everyone have their own definition of beauty? What about the saying "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"? What if my upbringing, experiences, exposures, or culture defined bones showing as not sexy?

I just don't understand why you chose to refer to my observations about myself as being "judgemental"...isn't it all judgement in some way when we determine what is sexy or what is beautiful? I don't think hair I can braid on a man's back is sexy...there I said it... I guess I'm judgemental.

Whatever floats your boat ????

Nope not judgmental there. To me the difference is between stating a personal preference and issuing a blanket statement (which you clarified you didn't so no big deal) that a particular body type is unattractive (not sexy).

I think blanket statements about particular body types (fat, skinny, tall, short, whatever) is something most of us have experienced in the past as obese people. People judge fat people are ugly/dumb/lazy/whatever--they issue blanket judgements based on physical appearance. And I just think this forum should be free of that. There is a tendency in our culture as a whole to yo yo between fat bashing and skinny bashing (The Megan Trainor song All About That Bass empowers curvy girls but at the expense of girls without them). I wish we could just get past it as a society.

But again, you clarified you weren't doing that so great.

[ProjectMe 909]

It is what it is. I grew up in a culturally diverse area. My friends were Samoan, Tongan, Hawaiian, Philipino, German, African American, Italian, Mexican, Guatemalan, Indian, and El Salvadorean. My 5'10, 170 pound frame was considered not cute/too big to my Asian friends, not cute/too skinny for my Polynesian friends, Thick or Just right for Arican American & Hispanic friends....and waay too big for my European friends. And after living in Europe I had a better understanding of European culture. Was I offended? Sometimes. And that was just body image. Don't get me started on my hair texture or skin color. But I accept and embrace diversity. Let me say that again, because I live by that personal statement. I accept and embrace diversity, Whether that be diversity of culture, thought, beliefs or opinion.

I don't believe my life's calling is to cry "foul" each time someone expresses a belief different from my own. Especially on an Internet board. but obviously you not only posted in a thread that didn't apply to you, you also chose to cry "foul". So whatever, it is what it is.

Edited February 25, 2015 by ProjectMe

[jess9395 5,448]

It is what it is. I grew up in a culturally diverse area. My friends were Samoan, Tongan, Hawaiian, Philipino, German, African American, Italian, Mexican, Guatemalan, Indian, and El Salvadorean. My 5'10, 170 pound frame was considered not cute/too big to my Asian friends, not cute/too skinny for my Polynesian friends, Thick or Just right for Arican American & Hispanic friends....and waay too big for my European friends. And after living in Europe I had a better understanding of European culture. Was I offended? Sometimes. And that was just body image. Don't get me started on my hair texture or skin color. But I accept and embrace diversity. Let me say that again, because I live by that personal statement. I accept and embrace diversity, Whether that be diversity of culture, thought, beliefs or opinion.

I don't believe my life's calling is to cry "foul" each time someone expresses a belief different from my own. Especially on an Internet board. but obviously you not only posted in a thread that didn't apply to you, you also chose to cry "foul". So whatever, it is what it is.

Wow clearly I hit a nerve with you so I am going to let this lie except to say that as far as posting in w thread that "didn't apply to me" I thought I had something to offer-- the notion that often our bodies chose their own goal weight.

[luckypants 57]

Hi! I am also 5'9" and currently weight 146lbs. My goal weight was 168lbs but continued to lose easily. At this weight lots of people comment that I am too skinny compared to when I weighed 160lbs. But whatever! I like this weight and I am of picture perfect health and wear a size 8. So I am content...I would also be content if I loosen up the reigns of my "diet" and did go back up to 160lbs and a size 10.

[bikrchk 1,313]

I went right in the middle of the healthy zone for BMI which includes a height calculation. BMI is not a perfect tool, but it's a decent starting place for most of us unless we're body builders or competitive athletes. I got close to the original goal and decided to stop and put my self in maintenance a few pounds early as I was in a size 4 and didn't feel like I needed to be smaller at that point. I allow a myslef to float around in a 10 pound range now which is working pretty well.

[ABrandNewKae 11]

I'm 5'9 & my ultimate goal is 160-155. Can't wait to get there!