Hello, I am new to this, but I am glad I found this group. A little about myself, I have been struggling with my weight since high school. I am 36 years old I have 3 beautiful girls, ages 19,12 and 20 months old. My breaking point happened when I became pregnant (birth control failed) I was already unhealthy and having several issues. My worse nightmare came true, my health issues made me go into early labor, my daughter was born at six months weighing 1lb 11oz. She is my miracle baby and is doing wonderful I have truly been blessed????. After seeing my baby fight for her life in the NICU the guilt kicked in and has not left me I blame myself for putting her through so much.

Since then I have gained more weight and been on so many diets, I recently found out my insurance will cover weight loss surgery, but I needed to complete 3 months of different appointments. Well next week I have 2 appointments left and then they can send everything to my insurance. I really hope I get approved, I want to live and see my gets grow.

I really haven't told anybody but my close family because the one so call friend of mine thinks that I am taking the easy way out. I have done my research and know that this is nothing easy. With that being said I have kept to myself a lot lately. I do not talk to anybody but my family.

I am nervous but I know I need this. I need a change in my life. I am so ready wish I could have the surgery tomorrow lol.

Welcome! It sounds like you know what you want! Good luck with the insurance, I hope you get a quick approval so you can come on over to the losers bench! Your baby sounds like a little blessing !

Thank Elode! I hope my approval goes by quick I am more than ready. And yes my baby is a little blessing ????

Just remember who you are doing this for. Good luck!

Thanks ????Qtpie28. Something I really needed to hear ????

I think you have one of the best reasons I've heard for wanting/needing this surgery and think you should be proud of yourself for having the courage to do what it takes to make sure you are there for your family.

The "easy way out" comments will probably always come and they always suck to hear because people just don't understand and they certainly don't think before they speak. Try to keep in your mind that that the "easy way" probably isn't all that easy, but it is definitely the most statistically successful. Your goal should be to take the safest bet for achieving long term health and wellness because you can't afford to lose that bet due to pride.

No one will come to an obese persons funeral and say "It's a shame they died so young and left their family behind, but at least they didn't take the easy way out. I sure do admire them for that...."

I also think you've come to the right place for support and advice as there are many on here who are tremendously supportive and helpful. If friends and family aren't always understanding, you can always come here and either get encouragement or solid advice when it's needed.

Welcome! You are still very young and you have so much life ahead of you. This baby is a blessing!

Mike4132 thank you so much for your words, I truly believe I have came to the right place for support ????

bellabill thank you!

Welcome!! I hope everything goes well your story is such a similar one to mine it brought tears to my eyes. Welcome to the family

Welcome!! I hope everything goes well your story is such a similar one to mine it brought tears to my eyes. Welcome to the family

Thank you so much ????

Don't let negative comments deter you from what you know is something you need to do for you! I got the same "easy way out" mess thrown at me from my best friend who has never been morbidly obese or even overweight and I told him that he can't relate even a little to what I feel and why I need this. Told him to research the process and he did. He's very supportive now.

Your health comes first then your family. With out your health in tact you can't take proper care of your family.

God bless you on your journey!!

Congratulations on your sweet little ladies. Sounds like you're a great mom! I'm just getting started here too. :-)

Thanks guys!

Congratulations on your sweet little ladies. Sounds like you're a great mom! I'm just getting started here too. :-)

Thanks my girls are everything to me ????. And good luck on your journey as well.

Don't let negative comments deter you from what you know is something you need to do for you! I got the same "easy way out" mess thrown at me from my best friend who has never been morbidly obese or even overweight and I told him that he can't relate even a little to what I feel and why I need this. Told him to research the process and he did. He's very supportive now.

Your health comes first then your family. With out your health in tact you can't take proper care of your family.

God bless you on your journey!!

Thank you and you are so right if I am not healthy I can not take care of my family.