So I have been selling off some toys from my collection . action figures still in their packaging, star wars figures mostly. So a lady finds me on facebook and she buys a few items, I meet her and she starts telling me about how she lost 40 pounds through her life and wellness coach and that she would like me to meet him and etc etc. I cordially decline and say Im set with myself for the surgery and yada yada. So this morning I get a message from her on face book, "Hi its me the woman who bought some items from you yesterday. I would really like to set up a meeting with you and my wellness coach, it wouldn't take long and I know he could get you the same result without the surgery. (Well Im glad SHE knows he can) so again im nice, I say no thank you im ok with what im doing etc. an hour ago I get another message. "hi again its me, my wellness coach asked me to contact you again he says its important that he talk with you , he feels the surgery is a mistake. " OH HE FEELS???

Well I would like to simply have been rude but I wasn't. I wanted to scream at this lady and call her a few choice names.

It just boggles the mind that people think we are doing this needlessly. Im not trying to drop a few pounds for a wedding. I'm telling you nothing is worse to a bariatric patient than some idiot who lose a few pounds and believes that makes them the god of weight loss.

They need to be slapped a few times.

How many of you deal with or have dealt with this?

That is very rude of the person who kept annoying you with their opinion. Unfortunately some people are not well informed about WLS but think they are. I kept my surgery to myself before I had it because I didn't want to deal with the misinformed nor the well intention who THOUGHt they were informed. But since you are taking another approach, one thing I would suggest is just to say "thanks, but my medical situation is personal and I am working with a full medical team, and have done my research. But thanks for your concern. Now, how 'bout those blah blah blah " change the subject and if they don't get the hint this time drop 'em) ????

Your story is unbelievable! I think it is boardering harrassment.

I have the same problem with friends and family trying to talk me out of it and recommending all the things they have tried. I am so tired explaining why my body doesn't respond the same way as theirs etc and all the things I already tried. They think portion control and exercise is the answer. I am happy that works for them and wish that worked for me.

I am so tired of repeatedly justifying and coming back with responses to all their suggestions.

Some are mothers of my kids' friends, and maybe if I just had a good comeback, that might work.

Family members and close friends are trickier because they really want to hash it out. "Thanks for loving me, but I am tired of defending my choice."

I'd love some more advice about dealing with people who are sure they know what is best for me.

QB

Simply say, "It's my choice, I've done my research and I know what I'm doing." I even go further and let them know I am no longer discussing this. Then anytime they try and bring it up I remind them that I am no longer discussing it.

Simply put, I shut it down every time. Eventually they get the hint.

My sister in law offered to pay for the 30/10 weight loss thing for me. It was crazy cause it costs more then what im going to have to pay for the surgery. I really hate going into the whole story of my weightloss history, i wish they would take our declining and stop. But no, they feel they are saving us from something horrible I guess.