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I usually tell people "I made a decision to save my life" and leave it at that.

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I usually tell people "I made a decision to save my life" and leave it at that.

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I've lost 100 lbs with my lapband over the last four years so I've heard a lot.

Frankly few have been snarky and those have left me be after telling them that I'm happy with my choice. So while it is good to be prepared try not to go in crazy paranoid and on alert:)

The vast majority have been supportive and interested and know someone who is contemplating. I think I've talked to at least 100 of those people when I've given my card and said "have them call or email if they want to talk about it."

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I had to go through this already. Surprisingly my brother was the only one who said anything. His exact words were "why don't you just work out?".... To which I replied "why don't you!?!? Instead of sticking a needle in your ass!?!?" (He does steroids)

I said it right in front of my entire family. Blew up his spot because all day everyone was complimenting him on how good he looked and he was going on and on about how he goes to the gym all the time.

Now my entire family knows his dirty little secret and will think twice before judging me for getting healthy the HEALTHY way.

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I had to go through this already. Surprisingly my brother was the only one who said anything. His exact words were "why don't you just work out?".... To which I replied "why don't you!?!? Instead of sticking a needle in your ass!?!?" (He does steroids)

I said it right in front of my entire family. Blew up his spot because all day everyone was complimenting him on how good he looked and he was going on and on about how he goes to the gym all the time.

Now my entire family knows his dirty little secret and will think twice before judging me for getting healthy the HEALTHY way.

@@cryssyd3 you're a woman after my own heart, why don't you... ha ha rotfl.

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Thanks for your concern. Listen, I've started hundreds of diets over the years, and look where they got me – miserable and unhealthy. So I've decided to go with a modern technique that's proven to be the most effective weight-loss tool there is. It'll still take a lot of hard work, but I'm optimistic. I'm really excited about it and I hope you'll be happy for me too. It's really a pretty cool procedure! If you're interested, I can tell you about it...

I find that most people are hooked at this point and want to hear more. I know you don't really want to talk about it, but information is what gets people on board. And then they stop judging.

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@@cryssyd3 you're a woman after my own heart, why don't you... ha ha rotfl.

There was also some choice words and middle fingers exchanged too. Hahaha

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