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Good evening all my fellow sleevers, and sleevers to be...

I have been reading a lot of the posts on this site, and although there are many people here that offer positive reinforcement to others, I see much, much more of the self negativity.

If you stop and think for just a second, who is your biggest cheerleader? Who is your biggest fan? YOU ARE!!!

Too many people speak too much negativity into their own spirits about what they can't do or think they can't do. My mother (God rest her soul) always said to me, "Don't tell me what you can't do, tell me what you CAN do". All of us have very difficult struggles ahead of ourselves, whether you are pre or post op. We MUST starting speaking more positivity to ourselves. We need to tell ourselves, "Yes I'm going to make it through the next 2 weeks of a liquid only diet". "Yes, I'm going to walk for at least 10 minutes everyday". Everything you say to yourself should start with, "I can or I will". ONLY POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS!!

If you tell yourself, you can't, you won't, or even I don't know, its not going to happen because you're beginning with a defeatist attitude. Speak positivity to yourself, say it out loud so your brain and your subconscious hear you claim the positive affirmation. You will be shocked when you realize how strong you really are, but you've always started the race 2 paces behind the pack because you started doubting yourself before you even got started.

Start building your "new self esteem" NOW! You won't have time later on because you'll be too busy LOOKIN' GOOD!!!

You CAN, You WILL, I CAN, I WILL... Let these words be your mantra. Just remember fear and self doubt bring failure and disappointment. We have all experienced too much of those in our lives already. Remember this... "Insanity" is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result. Let's start today doing something different, expecting a POSITIVE result!

Thank you for your gift of time!.... Michelle

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Thank you for this! I think it is so very important to be positive and be your biggest support.

I am a true believer in positive thinking! It does take practice if you have been hard on yourself for a long time, but it is worth the energy to turn that thinking around!

Again, thank you so much!

Sheena :-)

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I'm so glad you posted this!! I've been reading some negativity too.

It so important for everyone to be a able to speak their mind and vent their feeling. It's also even more important to help those feeling bad, sad or down.

How do those of us that are in a good place share the "good" advise and emotions with those that are "down" at the moment, post a positive and uplifting reply !!!

We are all in this together, and will all have our moments of happiness, doubt, frustration, and accomplishment.

Share, support each other, and know that we all ultimately have a similar goal, to loose weight!

Blessings, Love and Good luck everyone????

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I'm very blessed. Everyone in my life are my cheerleaders. It's helped my attitude immensely. I got on the scale this morning and did the fist pump at the numbers, go ME. Thanks for the pep talk!!!

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