Has anyone not told a single person about having surgery? I mean not a soul!! No parents, friends, or coworkers. I'm single so no husband or boyfriend to tell. I am a little worried about negative remarks but that's not the reason I'm not telling anyone. There are only 2 people that work with me here and one is a guy and the other is my skinny Japanese boss, so I don't really have the urge to tell them.

I do love my boss like a mom but I think she wouldn't really understand my situation. And of course there's the option to tell my actual parents, but my dad absolutely would not understand nor approve of me getting surgery and my mom, I think, wouldn't understand either. At least right now. She would say I'm taking the easy way out and I should be saving my money, etc.

I do plan on telling my mom first maybe after a year and then she can decide if she wants to tell my dad.

Although I do have friends no one is really close enough for me to tell except one or two people. But I'm not even sure if I want to say anything.

I just want to see if I'm alone in not telling anyone.

Thank you for this post! So many of these posts resonate with me, and I feel even more justified in my decision not to share this with anyone. I am not planning on telling a soul (other than my wife). I don't want to be defined by this decision and this moment in my life. I don't want to be anyone's reference point when they think of weight loss surgery. The only thing people in my life need to know is that I'm getting healthy. I want them to focus on that rather than how I got there. I want people to see ME once I lose the weight, not just see the "result" of weight loss surgery.

Thank you for this post! So many of these posts resonate with me, and I feel even more justified in my decision not to share this with anyone. I am not planning on telling a soul (other than my wife). I don't want to be defined by this decision and this moment in my life. I don't want to be anyone's reference point when they think of weight loss surgery. The only thing people in

my life need to know is that I'm getting healthy. I want

them to focus on that rather than how I got there. I want

people to see ME once I lose the weight, not just see the

"result" of weight loss surgery.

Exactly! Well said.

I told only a few people. Not my mother. I had told a friend and got sooooooo much push back, I did not expect. I stopped telling people.

The bitch of it is nobody notices the first 75 pounds any way. No need to say anything until then any way.

Told absolutely no-one, I had a hernia and gallbladder and bile exploration as well (day one, im writting from my hospital bed), because you have to change eating with that too that won't look odd

Feel like this is on me, my decision,my failure to loose and my success to win, not anyone elses, I had a baby 7 months ago so ppl are expecting some weight loss as well

Good luck, you will be fine and dont feel like you are living a lie or anything. Your decisions are for your reasons, honor that

Edited November 11, 201411 yr by camden1928

The following is a email I sent my 34 employees yesterday, my surgery is this Friday. the response below that is from one of our patients and a good friend who is head of a department at a nearby university. I just want to show other options.....

About 20 months ago I wasn’t feeling very well. I had an upcoming physical and after blood work Dr. Foreman informed us I had crossed the line into the early stages of type 2 diabetes. He prescribed metformin , diet and exercise. I took that to heart and at a checkup 4 months later was told I was doing great and to keep it up. Unfortunately I didn't. .This past June my A1C had gone up some and he surprised me by suggesting weight loss surgery. He explained that weight loss surgery patients with co morbidities were having surgeries with lower BMIs and resolving many of their co morbidities. Flo & I spent the summer researching and meeting with an excellent surgeon. After having a lot of test BC/BS cleared me for the surgery and I am scheduled for surgery this Friday am.

My primary objective post-surgery is the complete resolution of my diabetes. Through our research and discussions with Dr Paul Enoch, we have decided upon a gastric sleeve surgery with a new component that’s fairly new. In fact, I am included in a study that only seven surgeons nationally have been asked to participate. The procedure itself has been performed in Spain for three years, and in the States for one. Below I will include some information about the procedure that you may find interesting.

I have always been an open person. You can ask me anything and not offend me. So I am approaching weight loss surgery ( WLS ) the same.

We have told everyone in our lives about it and I hope that this may have some positive impact somewhere. The surgery will be a huge change, but it’s not a magic bullet. I will have major diet and lifestyle changes but most importantly I hope to be diabetes free very quickly.

Surgery is Friday am at Rex, I should be in just overnight and home a few days!

One response from a friend....

The message from Steve sets a new standard for how to disclose honest and accurate information to one's family and colleagues and to invite further discussion as a means of self education. It is so well done!