Encouragement needed urgently!

[Angelyaya5 16]

Good morning all,

I just had my surgery the 16th, and am still in the shake phase, but today when I got dressed I was hoping for my clothes

to feel a little looser.

They fit the same. Sorry if I'm whining, but I don't think I've lost any weight, how can that be? Since I suffer severely from depression,

I don't know what my starting weight was, or what pre-surgery weight was. My first appointment is on my birthday, October second.

I am on the verge of tears my peeps. Some words of kindness would be greatly appreciated from this who have traveled this road.

I know there are so many larger more important issues going on in the world, but just had to vent and I apologize for being needy.

Thank you all for listening to this old lady.

[esskay77 785]

You're fine! You JUST had surgery and your body is still recovering. It takes a while for the weight to come off. It takes even longer before other people start noticing it! It will happen.

You know how people say "the weight just fell off"? That's not exactly true and that is what sets unrealistic expectations!

You will lose weight but you will also have stalls where, no matter what you do, you don't lose a pound. And then, boom! You'll drop 5 in a day. It's a rocky journey but you need to learn to enjoy every step and stumble.

Keep following the plan, keep a food journal always, drink your Water, take your Vitamins, exercise (when cleared to do so), eat your protein--and it will all fall into place. It may be slowly, it may be fast, you don't know yet but it will happen.

Best of luck! Let us know in a few weeks what has happened--I bet your story will change by then.

[James Marusek 5,244]

I suspect that while you were in the hospital, you had an I.V. hooked to you. This pumped fluids into your body. As a result you probably left the hospital weighing more then when you first entered. It takes a few days for you to shed this added weight and get back to your pre-surgery weight. So give it a little time.

[Peggy Jean 41]

First of all, take a deep breath and calm down. I had my bypass on August 19th and I have suffered from severe clinical depression for 55 years (I will be 61 on Oct 3rd). I have been back to the hospital 2 times for severe UTI and gained weight with all those fluids they pumped into me both times. You WILL lose this weight. It's only been 6 days. Your body is still in shock and will be for some months to come. You WILL lose weight. In 5 weeks i have lost 30 lbs.

Are you seeing a therapist to help you through? I've been seeing one for the last 6 months to help me through this process. Plus, I have image problems I need to get through (I have lost 60 lbs pre-op and post-op, yet in my mind i see no difference ... just a very fat woman). But I am getting better. Depression makes this journey so much harder, but we CAN get through it. Stay POSITIVE! Stay COMMITTED! Get your weight taken and take measurements.

I may not see any difference in my body, but I know in my mind I have lost 20+ inches, and that keeps me going. I have started fitting into the clothes I have outgrown and that keeps me going. Other people notice a difference and that keeps me going.

Give yourself some time, hon. You didn't get where you are all at once and it won't disappear all at once. Be patient.

Drinking the shakes you can't help but lose weight. When you get further down the road you can start exercising, which not only helps with weight loss but helps you feel better, too.

If there is anything I can do or if you ever want anyone to talk to, give me a shout. We Libra's gotta stick together!!

(((BIG HUG)))

[Bingcherry 18]

I had my surgery on the 16th as well. I have lost about 9 lbs since surgery and I'm sure you have too. I've been on nothing but Clear liquids since the day after surgery. Personally, my stomach is still bloated so I'm not expecting to notice a big difference in my clothes.

I think you should relax and follow your Dr.s recommendations. Stay positive!!! Good luck.

[Angelyaya5 16]

Thank you all for the kind and encouraging words. I've decided not to step back onto the scale until next week. Had a minor setback, completely my fault. Entered my darkened bedroom and tripped over my dog (Boxer), and landed right on my stomach. Just a tad sore today. Hopefully there'll not be any repeat performances.