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I think some folks have too much time on their hands and like to bloviate on the bariatric site. Let's just try to act like adults and quit nit picking everyone's posts. I have been on here for over a year, some things are very helpful some are not . I choose what I want to read and what I want to respond to, it's frustrating to me to see members fighting . There are so many serious issues in this world to worry about other than whether someone posts too much about things that are already on here.

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I've been on here for a little while and to be honest I get Madame's side and everyone else's. I do try to be encouraging to everyone and I need encouragement sometimes too. Posts do get redundant and you feel like you are saying the same things over & over again. But, to me it's different people asking and I think they may need encouragement.

However, I don't blame Madame for her rant - we all need to vent sometimes & I have before too. When you "rant" on here you open yourself up for all sorts of responses. That's why I don't "rant" I just keep it to myself, but the rant section is just that - to rant!

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I think it's all in how you say things not so much as the content. If Madame is so bothered by peoples redundant posts perhaps she would be wise to just skip those that she deems too bothersome. I know that there are a lot of new folks on here daily and I try to be encouraging, because I was new also . I needed someone to say atta girl or try something different or call your Dr. I believe we all have to travel down this same road and it's not my place to determine how anyone else feels. Anyway I am done with this thread and I hope everyone develops some sympathy or empathy for new people and if you don't like their posts don't respond and don't berate.

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For the record, I'm not being a 'jerk'. If I wanted to be a 'jerk', i'd be going into individuals' threads, winding people up, calling people names and the like. Ringing any bells? I think most would observe, I haven't done that - even if by implication, you think I have. Humorously, I would hazard a guess - those getting most offended by my rant, are those most likely to identify with the pattern of behaviour observed... If that's you? Well, sorry, but this is a 'rant and rave' section (as keeps being endlessly repeated). If you don't like it. There's a door... I suggest you use it ------------------------->

I have read through this entire thread again to see If my remarks were off. Even as I read them again, Its clear to me my remark about "jerks" wasn't pointed at anyone in particular. However, in the context and flow of the thread I can see how it could have been read as me calling MR a jerk. It was a newbie mistake for me not to make it clear that I wasn't dissing her. So to MR and those who love her, I am sorry. Please let me know what else I need to do or say to clean this up with you. (Please don't ask for a 20 page paper that compares and contrasts Protein shakes because then I'd have to start a Rant about that and we could get caught in some sort of Star Trek infinity time loop. And you know what a pain those are!

Please, please lets stop the insanity of this thread......I beg everyone! I am writing this while being high on Morphine due to my latest hospital trip....... :blink: :) :rolleyes:

Oh RJ! Feel better, love.

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I would like to remind everyone that this website was created by Alex. Until he makes a rule that everyone should only search the forum before, during or after thinking of posing a question then none of us have the right to tell another member what to do for support. Also, it's no one else's business to tell another member where and what to read here. Anyone can read any thread anywhere they so choose, otherwise this space would be reserved for veteran eyes only.

For anyone considering moving on to another website please reconsider. There are many of us here, even ones that have been posting for many, many years that are happy to answer your questions, myself included. I may take time off but I do come back with a fresh face, but I can never remember lashing out on anyone who just wants a little support. This is a very scary decision and everyone has the right to seek one on one here.

Irene

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Even I'm done with this thread - and it's my bloody thread!

<Snores, drools, snores some more; passing out with a thud on the floor, through the UTTER TEDIUM of the circuitous 'arguments'>

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