For the love of sweet Jesus.....

[Texasmeg 568]

Hate to be nitpicky about terminology, but this forum or any other "social network" venue like Facebook, Twitter, or even texting should not be considered human contact. Contact is defined as "the act or state of touching; a touching or meeting, as of two things or people". Unfortunately today's society has moved away from true human contact. Now we simply type on a keyboard, while looking at a screen replying to or reaching out to complete strangers. There is certainly no real human contact in these types of venues. No facial expressions, no tone of voice, no body language, no social skills whatsoever. Perhaps human communication is a more appropriate term. If you are looking for real human contact, you need to attend support groups or see a therapist or even just hang out and talk with your friends or family. Heck, I could start a whole other rant about today's youth's spelling skills thanks to all the texting shortcuts that are used these days. How many even know how to spell laugh? (As in LOL) But for now let's just stick with the original rant concerning the pitiful underuse of this forum's search feature.

What is the benefit of an online support group then, over a book? Most of the books I've seen on bariatric surgery cover these topics.

[Kindle 8,667]

Online support groups offer the user the chance at interactive communication that books do not. My point was that social networking is not human contact in the strictest sense of the word. It's a misuse and misunderstanding of a very important aspect of our society. Did you ever hear about the experiment with the monkeys that were given a choice between a fake cloth covered "mother" vs a wire "mother" even though the wire one held the bottle? They all chose to cling to the cloth one for the sake of "comfort contact". Social networking is the wire mother that feeds us...it's communication, not contact.

Like I said it's me being nitpicky about the terminology, that's all.

Edited May 16, 2014 by Kindle

[cutiepieinchi 158]

I am confused, what is the point of a forum if we dont ask questions. I am preop..so you are telling me that everytime I post I should go and do and search before posting? Most of the time I am on the app so what you are saying is absolutely ridiculous.

-.-

[Mrs.RRn 2,110]

@@Madam Reverie - delightful, yet evil.

[Madam Reverie 2,958]

lol I'm not evil!

Maybe a bit of a pain in the bum, but not evil x

[inittothinit 145]

I spent so much time reading this thread I have worked up quite an appetite. Madame Revs, what's the best tasting Protein Bar? :)

[Madam Reverie 2,958]

I spent so much time reading this thread I have worked up quite an appetite. Madame Revs, what's the best tasting Protein bar? :)

Satay chicken flavour

[moonlitestarbrite 902]

I am confused, what is the point of a forum if we dont ask questions. I am preop..so you are telling me that everytime I post I should go and do and search before posting? Most of the time I am on the app so what you are saying is absolutely ridiculous.

-.-

hence it being firmly situated in the rants and raves section.

[moonlitestarbrite 902]

Meaning someone else already had this rant a year ago. You mean you didn't do an exhaustive search to find it, before posting on it again? Tsk tsk

Sorry couldn't resist. :-) dde07dde07

BAHAHAHA!!!!! good one.

[moonlitestarbrite 902]

****sprinkling lots and lots of "dont take yourself and everything else so seriously" fairy dust everywhere****

[Madam Reverie 2,958]

<is mulling over whether she can be arsed to go through every reply and respond to each 'charge' individually..>

<and she realises she can't be arsed, because it would be futile to>

[ninan 16]

Oh the drama! Puhleese!

Now really, what possible good can be gleaned from this over baiting, over biting, over bitchy rant? Me thinks someone may be craving attention SO badly that they now believe it's perfectly acceptable behavior to attack anonymous WLS patients over whatever real or imagined, half witted, half baked, pet peeve of the moment.

We're a vulnerable and exclusive group of folks so let's stand together, not apart!

I too have been amused by the Divine Miss R's posts in the past. This one, not so much.

Breathe in... breathe out baby!

[cheryl2586 3,053]

The only question that really gripes me is why am I hungry. You are hungry because its the bodies natural response to needing food. Other then that I am good.

[itsmekarenlee 129]

Being new here the OP almost makes me not want to ask anything in fear someone is going to talk behind my back ranting about my concern/question.

I'm sorry if I post duplicate questions but the way MY mind works is that if I have a question on my mind I need to immediately ask it or I'll forget. If I have a pen and paper I could write it down and then do a search but many times I'm on my phone and looking on the board and don't have access to a pen and paper.

To the OP- I'm thinking that you may be burned out with this site and need to move on perhaps?

[Madam Reverie 2,958]

Oh the drama! Puhleese!

Now really, what possible good can be gleaned from this over baiting, over biting, over bitchy rant? Me thinks someone may be craving attention SO badly that they now believe it's perfectly acceptable behavior to attack anonymous WLS patients over whatever real or imagined, half witted, half baked, pet peeve of the moment.

We're a vulnerable and exclusive group of folks so let's stand together, not apart!

I too have been amused by the Divine Miss R's posts in the past. This one, not so much.

Breathe in... breathe out baby!

To be fair, I couldn't give a rats arse whether anyone is enamored with this post or not. As with most things and as I have been repeatedly told - if you don't like something, move right along!

It is, after all, in the 'rant and rave' section of the program! So and if this point has escaped some, it avoids singling people out in their own threads (because that's attacking an individual ) but just 'sows the seeds of thoughts' for an individuals own reflection...

It is, rightly or wrongly, my viewpoint. Although most don't agree - most have overlooked the core tenet. Which is, for those who missed it, that if an individual can't be faffed to do in-depth research for themselves - wishing people to 'spoon feed' them repeatedly - then how does that bode for their levels of personal accountability post surgery? How does it benefit them or the site? It doesn't.

Now, if it's my mistake to assume that surely people want to 'add' to the pot - not just go through the motions time and time again - then I clearly miss the point of a forum of this nature and I'll hold my hands up to that.

I see the value in 'reaching out' - I really do. I have acknowledged and said it many times before. I am also in awe of the people who are not tired of responding to it. I, too, ignore what annoys. Sometimes, however, it gets my goat so I thought I'd state that.

I don't, however, see the purpose of people not taking accountability for their own information needs and also being a bit lazy in how they go about it. I do, however, concede there are often difficulties in this, when using the phone app and with the search function itself.

As for the drama... One might want to review ones own last post and make an evaluation from there on that one...

Attention seeking? Ha! As above.

I could always take it down to base level for you; start posting topics entitled 'OMG HELP!!!!' for it then to be an exposition of eating half a lettuce leaf with a molecule of ranch dressing on it. Asking people to anticipate down to the millisecond when it is they will likely expire...

But no, to make everyone feel 'better', I shall simply state that I love you all and am available, day or night, for cuddles, tear-wiping, forehead soothing and speaking in hushed, baby-like monosyllabic tones.

That, if unsure, would be the 'half baked', 'half witted' portion of the program