Really need some support

[DylanRae 71]

I'm here.

[loveurself1 21]

I'm here.

Why thank you DylanRae!

[greensleeve 457]

Does your program have live support group meetings? Go to them. I would suggest getting a therapist who specializes in bariatrics too.

I'm sorry he doesn't support you. What are his reasons?

[Susysleever 265]

I am preop. I am going to mx to avoid the preop crap. But I wanted a support group here. Well, some of the groups only want 'their' patients. I searched around and found a Banner group that takes all patients. And its a Center of Excellence to boot. Every week is a different topic, with a nut, psych, nurse etc.

I would recommend trying to find a group. And at least.test drive. Oh yea, we're here too :-)

[Pkdvm 175]

I still don't have my surgery date, but know how you feel. I live with my special needs daughter and have been separated from my husband for over a year. Just this week he filed for divorce, not a surprise, but he's gotten really nasty really quickly( cut me off from all joint credit cards, checking, etc). I was wondering if I'm crazy for pursuing this at such a stressful time, but I KNOW I'm ready. The lawyer will do his thing, it won't be easy, but I'm so grateful for this group. Good luck on your surgery and please know that I'm just one of many who wishes you success.

[loveurself1 21]

Does your program have live support group meetings? Go to them. I would suggest getting a therapist who specializes in bariatrics too. I'm sorry he doesn't support you. What are his reasons?

There are support groups available but the one that's associated with my program is way too far from where I live. My husband don't understand no matter how much I try to explain it to him. He thinks I can do it on my on without taking this route. Which I have done before & have lost a lot of weight in the past. I once weighed 330lbs years ago. Got all the way down to 199lbs which lasted for about a week :-( But after that I couldn't seem to get out of these 200's. & it's been about 8 years now. My current weight is about 235 & I'm 5'7. I think/know my husband has insecurity issues which he will not dare admit too. Because when were out together a lot of men tend to look at me & he sees that! I think he feels once I get this surgery he will loose me. I just don't know!

[loveurself1 21]

I am preop. I am going to mx to avoid the preop crap. But I wanted a support group here. Well, some of the groups only want 'their' patients. I searched around and found a Banner group that takes all patients. And its a Center of Excellence to boot. Every week is a different topic, with a nut, psych, nurse etc. I would recommend trying to find a group. And at least.test drive. Oh yea, we're here too :-)

Thank you much Susysleever!:-)

[loveurself1 21]

I still don't have my surgery date, but know how you feel. I live with my special needs daughter and have been separated from my husband for over a year. Just this week he filed for divorce, not a surprise, but he's gotten really nasty really quickly( cut me off from all joint credit cards, checking, etc). I was wondering if I'm crazy for pursuing this at such a stressful time, but I KNOW I'm ready. The lawyer will do his thing, it won't be easy, but I'm so grateful for this group. Good luck on your surgery and please know that I'm just one of many who wishes you success.

So sorry to hear that! I think this will be the beginning to a wonderful life for you. You're not crazy for pursuing this! This is what you might just need right now. "Loveurself1st!" Hang in there, and I'm here if you need someone to talk to. :-)

[RJ'S/beginning 5,357]

PM me anytime...for any reason...I will help as much as I can through my own experience...okay! Your doing an amazing thing to help yourself......We know because we did it too...

[CrazyJaney 775]

Thinking of you. The month before is a mess of emotions. YOU are so worth this! Lots of support here and you never know, your hubs might change his mind as you progress. Lots of love sent!

[loveurself1 21]

Thinking of you. The month before is a mess of emotions. YOU are so worth this! Lots of support here and you never know, your hubs might change his mind as you progress. Lots of love sent!

Thank you much and I sure hope he will & if not...oh well, I'll be a healthier & happier me regardless

[erieb2healthy_2014 27]

Hoping tomorrow and the days after are brighter days for you. I agree with other posts - you can find comfort and support via this forum. We are all in this together. For me, my husband is in the military and having a spouse overweight is embarrassing to him. He doesnt say it directly to me, but I can sense it. I can relate to what you are feeling just in a different way. We will come through this ok and be better for it. Take care.

[Bigmommatojacob 54]

I am having my surgery the 25th also. Prayers to you for health and support.

[loveurself1 21]

I am having my surgery the 25th also. Prayers to you for health and support.

Thank you much! Congrats to you & please keep me posted!