:/ he texting another woman after 12 years together and 4 kids!!!!!!!

This sure is a hot button topic. First of all, I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I truly hope you don't allow this situation to impede your weight loss. I know a lot of times significant others can have feelings of being left behind when the other is making changes to become healthier and may even fear that you, yourself, might find someone else. I'm by no means condoning his behavior.

With today's social media and technology it is becoming easier and easier for people to enter into non-physical affairs and what are now being called "emotional" affairs. I think it will do you both good to begin therapy to understand what the underling issues are. I truly wish you the best of luck in whatever the outcome may be.

And remember you have us all on here to vent to when you need a shoulder to cry on or a screen to scream at!

Best Wishes!

That other woman is fulfilling a void. Speak to him about how he feels what you both can do to be better. Also when you go looking for trouble, you almost always find it.

That other woman is fulfilling a void. Speak to him about how he feels what you both can do to be better. Also when you go looking for trouble, you almost always find it.

I don't like this way of thinking. "She" may be filling a void, but that doesn't mean the wife is responsible for the fact that the man she married feels no love, respect, or responsibility for his wife. He is not a little boy, there are dire consequences to his actions, and his choices are not the fault of his wife. They are seeking marriage counseling, that's the best thing they can do.

I don't like this way of thinking. "She" may be filling a void, but that doesn't mean the wife is responsible for the fact that the man she married feels no love, respect, or responsibility for his wife. He is not a little boy, there are dire consequences to his actions, and his choices are not the fault of his wife. They are seeking marriage counseling, that's the best thing they can do.

I'm not saying she is responsible. It something in him. I'm just saying speak to him. See what's going on in his mind. Then from there make the best decisions for her and her children.

Thanks everyone! We are in therapy! He knows he messed up, and I know we are not perfect! Thanks for the concern!

Hope things are going well for you.

Thanks, things are going well.

Thanks, things are going well.

So happy for you! I know exactly how it is, but now after 4 years I am happy I did not follow my first instincts. We are happier than ever! I have a lovely family! I do not have many 'friends' now but I am more happy like this. I wish you all the best and be patient !