What do you all say to people when they say "you have lost weight on the pre op diet...why do something so drastic like getting your stomach cut out (sleeve)..why cant you just diet instead..you have just shown you can do it with this pre op diet?"

When I got asked that, I used statistics. People aren't usually ready for science to come flying at them, so they would never retort.

I actually told her to STFU and she got really mad at me and wouldn't speak to me for 2 weeks. How dare I tell her to STFU she said. LOL Needless to say we are not as close as we used to be. Another "great" comment she made (with a disgusted look on her face) was, "Are you sure you'd rather have all that excess loose skin then be overweight?" I told her she was rude and unsupportive and she was seriously dumbfounded - thought she was my #1 supported and friend. I figured out why she was saying that kind of stuff to me though - she likes me fat, I make her feel good about herself. Sad but true...

ew I have people like that in my life and the claws will come out once I'm sleeved and losing weight, excellent point

Don't you just "LOVE" those people who have never had to lose weight or their GOAL was to lose 5-10 pounds trying to tell you how to do it????

Seriously, I could have wrung a few necks before sleeve too! Now, sometimes I find MYSELF wanting to say, "Come on, just eat right!" Ha! How quickly we forget!!!

3 1/2 years and 110 pounds out, the view changes. I've been watching sometimes the "My 600 lb life" show and honestly, I want to just shake some of them. You truly have to WANT to change bad enough to CHANGE.

And Kristin, yeah, go ahead and "deck" your friend! LOL

I didn't want ANY feedback about my decision to have WLS...good or bad. That's why I only told my HR Rep and my supervisor who had RNY last year.

Argh!! I just got asked the exact same thing. My surgery is in 5 days and I'm too smart to fall for that crock. Been there, done that. Losing weight is not the problem, is it? Keeping it off is, of course.

I start my first two week liquid diet tomorrow. Have to do this to jump start then do regular diet then liquids again before surgery. Is there such thing as the best tasting protein shake? I can use skim milk they said. And gave me a list of tons of kinds I can have. Any suggestions?

I start my first two week liquid diet tomorrow. Have to do this to jump start then do regular diet then liquids again before surgery. Is there such thing as the best tasting Protein shake? I can use skim milk they said. And gave me a list of tons of kinds I can have. Any suggestions?

There are lots and lots of threads about this if you search "protein shakes".

Personally I couldn't tolerate anything other than Premier Ready-to-Drink chocolate Protein drinks.

You have to do what feels right for you. If you think you will have success at losing with just doing the diet ok fine. Myself? That doesn't work for me. I have been dieting and gaining for 10 years now. My problem is not the food its how I respond to food. I am an emotional eater I eat for fun, out of boredom, stress. So while a traditional diet may work for my friend who needs to just drop 20.lbs-at 265 lbs and an emotional eating issue-um weight watchers cannot even touch my issues...I need professional help here. Lmao!!

I stuck with these lines:

"My doctor and I have decided this is the best option for me."

"Thank you for worrying about me, but my doctor and I have decided this is the best option for me."

For family members, they knew I had struggled for years and didn't say that, but were worried about the operation. I took my Mom to a support group meeting and a pre-op appt. She felt much better after that.

Lynda

Thank you! I am going through that now.. I workout like a fiend, and the weight still is hard to come off. I've been struggling since I was about 12.. I'm 35.. how much longer do I need to "try".. My sister had the nerve to say.. yea, but have you REALLY tried.

I had a friend say the exact same thing to me. She decided she would diet with me when I went back to work (only I had already been sleeved) she lasted 2 days eating my post op diet. She went back to eating how she did before and now says she gets it. She is looking into wls herself.