Happy that I have made it this far in 4 months..lost 58 pounds befor surgery. Someone close to me said YOU DONT EVEN DESERVE TO HAVE THE SURGERY. What if their right, I don't. I let this happen to me no one else. I was so happy last couple of days. Now I am so sad that I am questioning everything

Happy that I have made it this far in 4 months..lost 58 pounds befor surgery. Someone close to me said YOU DONT EVEN DESERVE TO HAVE THE SURGERY. What if their right, I don't. I let this happen to me no one else. I was so happy last couple of days. Now I am so sad that I am questioning everything

No one has the right to say that to you!!!! The nerve! You DO deserve to be healthy and happy! Do it for yourself. You may have 'let' it happen to yourself but now you are doing something about it. This is YOUR life and YOUR decision. Keep your happy thoughts! If people genuinely care about you they will come around. If not, best to lose them now. Hang in there! :-)

Thank you Terry. I swear my emotions are going all over the place. Maybe its the clear liquid diet I been on since noon yesterday or maybe its just overwhelming the thought of being healthy.

That person DESERVES to be shown the door and right out of your life.

Seriously.

They are toxic to you.

What YOU deserve is a life without this poison in it.

Grrrr!

I'm still upset about this.

Whoever said that to you must have been someone whose opinion about you matters to you.

I hope that your bypass surgical program includes post-operative counseling and support. Please tell your surgeon and your post-surgical care team about this comment. They will help you get your head straight about this situation and this person.

The reasons for obesity are very, very complex. Becoming obese requires a whooooole lotta things to line up in a certain way in order for that to happen. You are going to have an opportunity to become educated about that in the months to come.

BTW, I saw a post here this morning from a guy named Frank who had WLS a year ago. He has lost 200 pounds already (!!!) and has another 100 to go. Just visualize yourself that way.

Go get 'em.

Thanks Ann. I will follow your advice.

I'm pulling for you, Bobby. In fact, everyone here is pulling for you.

(hugs)

Happy that I have made it this far in 4 months..lost 58 pounds befor surgery. Someone close to me said YOU DONT EVEN DESERVE TO HAVE THE SURGERY. What if their right, I don't. I let this happen to me no one else. I was so happy last couple of days. Now I am so sad that I am questioning everything

Ummmmmmm hello. Offer that person my # and I will set them straight for you. Goodness! That is information/words that you need to let go in one ear and out the other. Do NOT consider that person or their words any form of support and good advice. You are taking care of you and this is about YOU not that person. You keep moving forward in your daily progress AND you go for surgery and let your life turn itself around, as you see fit. This is coming from a girl who is having surgery (RYGB) next week, Tuesday the 17th. I am getting more and more nervous, but I am staying on track and gonna do this. This will be the BEST GIFT I have ever given myself. You do the same.......this is your present to YOU!

That is awful! I am sorry you even had to hear that crap. Take care and only listen to the people that actually care about you!

Thank you Bronco and I'm losing it for your support

This liquid diet kinda sucks. I believe I am starving to death but I know its just my stomach and mind playing games. I got to be at hospital at 9 am and it can't get here soon enough.

The liquid diet is pretty hard, but you did it! Best of luck to you tomorrow!

Hang in there you can do it, stay positive you do not need any haters in your life, your on your way to a healthier you, we are here for you.

Good luck tomorrow

Amazing what some people feel they can say to you. I'm so sorry that they said that. Keep your spirits up! Tomorrow is your day! Good luck with your surgery!!

The liquid diet is definitely the least of my favorite part about this surgery. As for the rude person...... Honey people say some awful things. Some say some thoughtless things. Overall you are making a decision about your health and well being. The fact you were approved for this surgery says enough about you qualify for it. I started on a bit of a lower spectrum than some who have had the surgery weight wise and there have been some things said to me. It hurt my feelings and at times made me fighting mad. Overall the sleep apnea being gone, high bp gone, insulin resistance, pcos, and all the other good that's happened since surgery have made it worth it. I deserve good health as we all do. We deserve happiness and sometimes the chances we get for it are what makes us truly appreciate it more. Delete from your life the toxic folks as it's just not worth having them bog you down again as you continue along your journey. Hold on tight it's a wild ride...but worth it!!