Happy that I have made it this far in 4 months..lost 58 pounds befor surgery. Someone close to me said YOU DONT EVEN DESERVE TO HAVE THE SURGERY. What if their right, I don't. I let this happen to me no one else. I was so happy last couple of days. Now I am so sad that I am questioning everything

If someone went to that person and said they could have a surgery and change diet and it would cure multiple major issues and prolong their life by YEARS, do you think they would feel they deserved the surgery???

You deserve it and to live longer, healthier life!

Hope your surgery went well today.

Edited December 11, 201312 yr by knt4ever

I've read a lot of negative comments in response to someone's decision to have WLS. The majority are based on ignorance of the facts. Some are based on ignorance along with concern for the person's welfare.

This is entirely different. This is hate. In a number of different contexts, it would border on a crime. If anyone ever said that to me, about me or about anyone else, it would be the last conversation we would ever have. There is no excuse. No justification. No forgiveness. Some things are not acceptable. I would not want this person in my life or the lives of those I care about.

Happy that I have made it this far in 4 months..lost 58 pounds befor surgery. Someone close to me said YOU DONT EVEN DESERVE TO HAVE THE SURGERY. What if their right, I don't. I let this happen to me no one else. I was so happy last couple of days. Now I am so sad that I am questioning everything

I am sorry that u had to deal with someone like that. Everyone deserves a better life. I hope you the best and will be in my prayers.

Thank you Terry. I swear my emotions are going all over the place. Maybe its the clear liquid diet I been on since noon yesterday or maybe its just overwhelming the thought of being healthy.

Bobby, I know you had your surgery already, and hope you're doing well. Mine's next week...I feel a lot of the same - that I did this to myself and now I have to rearrange my insides, change my God-given body, to lose weight. My weight has been the one thing in my life that I haven't been able to conquer. I sometimes feel it's a cop out or the easy way out, but there's definitely nothing easy about this - for me or my family. My fears, emotions, excitement, etc are all over the place. I kind of look at it like, I've been fat since I was six, and I haven't been able to live a healthy life. I have a wonderful husband, and I'd like to live a long, healthy life. That said, that's a daunting thought since I've never been healthy, and I'm scared I won't know how to deal with a thin, healthy body. My body image will be shot, and I know I'll have a hard time with a "fat head." that's what therapy will be for...dealing with such an enormous change. You'll be great, and you're already past the biggest hurdle of surgery. Congrats on taking control of your body when, for so many years, it has controlled you (and me)!

Thank you Mkmb. Its a roller coaster of emotions. I feel in my head like a new person. I am so excited about the next chapters in our lives. I too have never been small. Its freaks me out to think I could be smaller than my brothers. I hope you do well next week. The sooner you get up and about the less pain will set in. Remember sip sip sip walk walk walk lol. Thats our new life

Thank you Mkmb. Its a roller coaster of emotions. I feel in my head like a new person. I am so excited about the next chapters in our lives. I too have never been small. Its freaks me out to think I could be smaller than my brothers. I hope you do well next week. The sooner you get up and about the less pain will set in. Remember sip sip sip walk walk walk lol. Thats our new life

Thanks. Surgery was 2 days ago (thurs). So happy to be home! Blended diet starts tomorrow! Can't wait for some cottage cheese (ha, seriously)! I didn't walk until day 2 in the hospital, but I did at least stand up day 1. Wow, that was rough. I envy the folks who said they didn't have any pain! At least I'm in my own bed without all the tubes, so I feel 100% better than yesterday! How long until we feel better?

Thanks. Surgery was 2 days ago (thurs). So happy to be home! Blended diet starts tomorrow! Can't wait for some cottage cheese (ha, seriously)! I didn't walk until day 2 in the hospital, but I did at least stand up day 1. Wow, that was rough. I envy the folks who said they didn't have any pain! At least I'm in my own bed without all the tubes, so I feel 100% better than yesterday! How long until we feel better?

Recovery varies from person to person...I was up the first day, and really turned the corner after about week 3. Take the pain meds on time..sip lots and walk a lot...you'll feel better before you know it.

Happy that I have made it this far in 4 months..lost 58 pounds befor surgery. Someone close to me said YOU DONT EVEN DESERVE TO HAVE THE SURGERY. What if their right, I don't. I let this happen to me no one else. I was so happy last couple of days. Now I am so sad that I am questioning everything

That makes me so sad that someone would say that to you....I hope things have changed since 12-10 ....

Don't listen to ignorant people whose motivations for such awful words may be in question.

Keep smiling Bobby you're doing GREAT! I admire you for losing so much before surgery thats hard and takes a real will for success!!

GO FOR IT Bobby!!

Let us know how you're doing.

Edited December 25, 201312 yr by DebbieRenee