I feel out-of-control like a complete failure-disappointed- frustrated! I was sleeved November 14, 2013 and starting in the summer after my son graduated high school all of my old habits have come back.... My weight-loss has stopped. My exercising has decreased. My eating discipline is completely gone ! I graze all day long! I'm just trapped in this mental circle! I really expected myself to be able to do this I am so so disappointed in myself!!!!!

Ok brush it off! No use beating up on yourself now. You still have the sleeve.

This is going to be hard trust me. But cut out all the crap cold turkey. Don't starve yourself but fill up on lean Protein and veg only. It's going to take awhile to get over those cravings but once you do. It will be easier to to stick to a clean diet and start losing again.

Oh by the way I'm a November girl too (the 13th)

and yes I know it gets harder. I have my struggles too..

Find out what's causing you to regress. There's an issue that you aren't facing. It may be a really bad issue and you aren't ready to deal with it...but if you start by acknowledging it, then that's a start. After that you can refocus on your diet habits like Master said. You've beat yourself up, now get back to your goals.

Well, I believe you can stop them. I know it sounds corny, but words do matter. I think it is very helpful to "talk to yourself" in very positive not negative terms. For example, I tell myself i am athletic - which was a foreign idea to me for the first 48 years of my life. It took other people telling me this at first before I started accepting the possibility it might be true, and now it is part of my self identity.

For so many years, "failing" at weight loss was who we are. Now, think about creating a new vision of yourself. Stop beating yourself up, treat yourself like you would treat your best friend, or your daughter, with kindness and love.

Now food related. Honestly, I think for me a huge part of it was PHYSICAL. I was raised on the whole diet soda, eat low fat and that "grains" were good for me. bull-hockey. Once I abandonned that terribly flawed view of how to "diet" and instead have a lifestyle based on high quality Protein, lots of veggies, limited carbs in the form of fruits and veggies... no junky food, no bread, no Pasta... mysteriously my desire to eat crap is nearly disappeared. I think that junky carbs trigger appetite in many of us and that whole low fat / diet food mentality created an imbalance in us. My lifestyle is also based on being active... if in doubt, choose activities that get me moving. So yes I exercise, but I also do yard work, clean stalls, move hay, why hire people to do stuff that will make me fitter???

Thank you for the encouragement! After rereading my post and all of the others- I think it is something deeper! My husband changed jobs within the same company but a new location- my son graduated and my oldest daughter can home from the Air Force ( we hadn't seen her in 2 years! ) then had to leave again.... Then my father in law passed away very unexpectedly the day after Father's Day! Emotional overload.... Then July is usually difficult, my deceased daughters birthday.... I thought I was coping ok- I guess not! Thanks again this has given me incite!

I'm guessing you meant 2012?

Ok so here is what you do.....go back to basics! If you want to be successful then you have to be willing to change. You have this tool that hundreds of thousands of obese people out in the world would give anything to get, but can't! You are one of the lucky ones that could get it.....so use it. Get off your pitty bus and get moving. You can do it, you already have....it's just a matter of sticking to it. I know I don't ever want to be stuck in that horrible fat body that was slowly killing me ever again. I am willing to do anything to fight off that fat! You just have to ask yourself if it is worth it to you or not. If it is then make like the shoe and just do it! Hehe

Good luck!

I feel out-of-control like a complete failure-disappointed- frustrated! I was sleeved November 14' date=' 2013 and starting in the summer after my son graduated high school all of my old habits have come back.... My weight-loss has stopped. My exercising has decreased. My eating discipline is completely gone ! I graze all day long! I'm just trapped in this mental circle! I really expected myself to be able to do this I am so so disappointed in myself!!!!![/quote']

Surgery was on November 14, 2012!

First forgive yourself, then get moving! Get out of the house, change the enviroment and change your attitude from I cant to I can.

Girl,set small goals, 5 lbs goals at a time, give your self rewards that are not centered around food but around your new life!!

I'll repeat what so many vets have drilled into us:

Protein first, then veg, then healthy complex carbs

No drinking with meals

Get in your Water

Log everything

I bet you can get on track. Let us know how it goes. Good luck.

First forgive yourself' date=' then get moving! Get out of the house, change the enviroment and change your attitude from I cant to I can.

Girl,set small goals, 5 lbs goals at a time, give your self rewards that are not centered around food but around your new life!![/quote']

Thank you! After posting this a week ago, I have been taking one day at a time! I have starting using my fitness pal and exercising. I made a November challenge goal and so far so good! The weekends are the hardest- but I have done well.... Thanks again!

Ok brush it off! No use beating up on yourself now. You still have the sleeve. This is going to be hard trust me. But cut out all the crap cold turkey. Don't starve yourself but fill up on lean protein and veg only. It's going to take awhile to get over those cravings but once you do. It will be easier to to stick to a clean diet and start losing again.

. I needed to hear this so badly!