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Backed out of surgery... twice :(

Okay so heres my story... Ive backed out of surgery twice now. The first time I was scheduled for March 18th, the second time was May the 20th. I have no support really other then my boyfriend. My sister told me I was just lazy. My mom and brother told me I was going to die. Ive had problems with my stomach before and thats the only thing that I was worried about. My coworkers are also very negative about it. Its hard to have it done without telling my coworkers because of the time that I have to take off of work. So heres my question.... Has anyone else backed out or am I the only one? I will get it done some day and I hope its soon. I think that my surgeon is going to give up on me for doing this. I feel like a failure. Just really need some advice and support. thanks everyone :)

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When you are ready you will do it. There are options. It takes longer but go to a dietician to show you how to portion food size. Jenny Craig weight watchers. Surgery isn't the only way people lose weight. When you are ready you will lose weight. No judgment here. We area support group not enemies

When you are ready you will do it. There are options. It takes longer but go to a dietician to show you how to portion food size. Jenny Craig weight watchers. Surgery isn't the only way people lose weight. When you are ready you will lose weight. No judgment here. We area support group not enemies

mami is absolutely right. WLS isn't for everyone and there many other ways to lose weight. Surgery is serious and you have to be all in or not at all. Your lifestyle has to change completely and you may not be ready yet or you may be willing to lose weight another way. No matter what you decide don't give up. You know that you started this journey for a reason and you don't want to put that on the back burner.

Okay so heres my story... Ive backed out of surgery twice now. The first time I was scheduled for March 18th' date=' the second time was May the 20th. I have no support really other then my boyfriend. My sister told me I was just lazy. My mom and brother told me I was going to die. Ive had problems with my stomach before and thats the only thing that I was worried about. My coworkers are also very negative about it. Its hard to have it done without telling my coworkers because of the time that I have to take off of work. So heres my question.... Has anyone else backed out or am I the only one? I will get it done some day and I hope its soon. I think that my surgeon is going to give up on me for doing this. I feel like a failure. Just really need some advice and support. thanks everyone :)[/quote']

Fear of the unknown is crippling. I was terrified and worried I would die...my mother disapproved and had me in tears on the way to the hospital to have mine done. Ultimately it's your decision and journey and only u can decide. Weigh the options and just think what u truly think is best cause only u can live the best and right life for u! It's not easy either way u go..to have surgery doesn't totally "cure" things..and it's not easy. I think I made the best decision for me and I hope u truly find out yours. As for coworkers..people always have opinions even when they should just keep their mouth closed. If u have surgery hold your head high cause u are going to be bringing out the healthy and best of u for an example for others. If its fear try to talk with someone..or any of us here. Email me if u would like. Hope you find peace either way u go..good luck and god bless.

Please do not let outside people influence you... ITS YOUR DECISION and no one else !!! You owe your co-workers no explanation what so ever, ever hear of HIPA ? All you have to do is say your are out on medical leave if they ask for what or why I would say "why do you ask"?? or just change the subject. Your medical decisions are YOUR decisions, if YOU want surgery then go for it and please do not let other influence you. Surgery is NOT the easy way out, its a tool just like Jenny Craig, Weight Watchers, a exercise bike etc. etc. and having MAJOR surgery is NOT the easy way out it is the most difficult !!! Its nice to have support and I was lucky that I only told a few people (family & close freinds) and I had 110% support from everyone. My co-workers that I told (3) are very good friends. Please listen to your own feelings and go with your gut decision.

Yeah, I agree with everyone, a friend of mine who had the surgery told me something that stuck to me, she said "don't explain your reasoning to having weight loss surgery", she told me that it was my decision regardless of what anyone else thought. When I told my husband, daughter, and mom, they all were totally against it, they were concerned, but after I kept educating them, they are on board; they would rather see me healthy than sick all the time, taking different medications; sure they are still conerned but hey, it's what I want to do, I can't tell you that I'm 100% ready, I just know I got to do this to be healthy, I will be 43, I want to feel and look the part.

Okay so heres my story... Ive backed out of surgery twice now. The first time I was scheduled for March 18th' date=' the second time was May the 20th. I have no support really other then my boyfriend. My sister told me I was just lazy. My mom and brother told me I was going to die. Ive had problems with my stomach before and thats the only thing that I was worried about. My coworkers are also very negative about it. Its hard to have it done without telling my coworkers because of the time that I have to take off of work. So heres my question.... Has anyone else backed out or am I the only one? I will get it done some day and I hope its soon. I think that my surgeon is going to give up on me for doing this. I feel like a failure. Just really need some advice and support. thanks everyone <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' />[/quote']

You have to decide what is best for you! Disregard what others may say. You have to be able to live with your decision.

It's a huge decision...take your time.

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