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Hello everyone,

I am in the pre-op stage right now. I have went to my initial consultation and am going for my second visit with the surgeon on July 11. I have struggled with my weight my entire life. When I was around 14 years old I hit my highest weight of about 320lbs. I managed to get myself down to 132lbs by the time I was 16 years old. I felt wonderful and have to say that one of the few times that I have truly felt like "myself". I had my first child when I was 19 years old. I had gotten up to 210lbs with her but managed to get back down to 162 lbs and maintained that until I got pregnant with my second child only a year later. I gained 90 lbs with him. So, I hit the 250 lb mark and managed to lose 20 or 30 lbs here and there but always gained it back. I had my third child in 2009, and went up to about 300 lbs with him. Last year I managed to get back down to 249 lbs. But sadly, gained it all back. Right now I am at 306 lbs, and honestly I am miserable. I am trying to get back into using the eliptical but I feel like my body is fighting me every step of the way.

I am having a really hard time finding time for myself, which I am sure is a very common issue for everyone. I am in college full time, I have three children, and work a full time job. My husband is very supportive, but, unfortunately he can't exercise for me :D .

I was told that the surgeon would like me to lose about 20 lbs before surgery, I am trying to keep the mind set that I can do it, and I would really like to lose more than that. I am only 5 foot tall so all this weight on this little frame makes me achy and tired everyday. I am determined to have the "real me" back! I am looking forward to talking to everyone. It is hard to talk to very many people in my daily life because a lot of people have the idea that having surgery is cheating. I don't think people truly understand what a life changing commitment this is.

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I am in the pre-op stage right now. I have went to my initial consultation and am going for my second visit with the surgeon on July 11. I have struggled with my weight my entire life. When I was around 14 years old I hit my highest weight of about 320lbs. I managed to get myself down to 132lbs by the time I was 16 years old. I felt wonderful and have to say that one of the few times that I have truly felt like "myself". I had my first child when I was 19 years old. I had gotten up to 210lbs with her but managed to get back down to 162 lbs and maintained that until I got pregnant with my second child only a year later. I gained 90 lbs with him. So, I hit the 250 lb mark and managed to lose 20 or 30 lbs here and there but always gained it back. I had my third child in 2009, and went up to about 300 lbs with him. Last year I managed to get back down to 249 lbs. But sadly, gained it all back. Right now I am at 306 lbs, and honestly I am miserable. I am trying to get back into using the eliptical but I feel like my body is fighting me every step of the way.

I am having a really hard time finding time for myself, which I am sure is a very common issue for everyone. I am in college full time, I have three children, and work a full time job. My husband is very supportive, but, unfortunately he can't exercise for me :D .

I was told that the surgeon would like me to lose about 20 lbs before surgery, I am trying to keep the mind set that I can do it, and I would really like to lose more than that. I am only 5 foot tall so all this weight on this little frame makes me achy and tired everyday. I am determined to have the "real me" back! I am looking forward to talking to everyone. It is hard to talk to very many people in my daily life because a lot of people have the idea that having surgery is cheating. I don't think people truly understand what a life changing commitment this is.[/quote']

Dawn,

I am early on in my life changing journey too. I have been to a seminar and go for my initial appt with the surgeon on July 5th. Just remember, you are not alone ;). I hope we can stay in touch.

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I have 4 older sisters who all thought the surgery was cheating, but a week after taking care of me, they all quickly changed their minds. I would suggest u keep a journal and have something to share to those critics who say it is the easy way out. If you want to get to work, you could wake up at 4 am and take 2 or 3 hours to walk there or you can have a car note, be stuck in traffic, etc.. The car may get you there faster, but doesn't mean it's easy (I use to sit on traffic 3 to 4 hours a day Atlanta) I fell asleep behind the wheel, thigh and legs went numb, gained more weight and increase vertigo.

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Welcome to the forum. You're in the right place with an amazing number of great folks!

kiwi - Love the walking vs. car analogy! One of the best I've seen!!

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I can't figure out how to reply to each message individually, so I wanted to send a big thank you to all of you that have welcomed me with "open arms" :D It is really nice to be able to talk to other people that are going through very similar things as myself! Looking forward to getting to know everyone!!

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