I have a very personal question!

[Taradawn15 148]

Just my opinion, but I think younger people with less weight to lose have less of a battle with saggy skin than my 50 year old self. Sure exercise helps and there are perfect examples of VST people here. But I'll take the sagging skin and any plastic surgery if i feel I need it down the line over my former 416 pound self wondering how long i can stand the arms of the chair digging into my thighs at the doctors office.

I am only 28 and exercise 5 to 6 days a week and I still have a ton of saggy skin, so I don't know how much age has to do with it.

Also for me the bedroom is a very scary place, with clothes on I feel amazing and great about the work I've put in to get to where I am now. Get me undressed and alone and it is not the same story, apparently I have body issues I never knew about. Also I am a bit more fragile than I was before so when my husband was home briefly we had to re learn how we could both enjoy ourselves in new ways. It's a fresh start and we all kinda have a new learning curb for our new bodies. Don't give up and don't feel bad. However I would go to the doctor, I struggled with no sex drive severely after having one of my children and it wasn't a hormone thing is was my head having a hard time adjusting to my new rolls in life and new prioritys. The doc gave me some meds to help well I went to counseling to help sort everything out. Keep at it and keep lines of communication open with your partner that way they know what's going on and don't blame themselves.

[Taradawn15 148]

I have very little sag, my arms is my only issue. The running has tightened everything else up nicely I am leaning toward fatigue being my issue! Even being 6 months out I still have trouble getting enough calories and now I have added running! I am working on getting the calories and the fluids down! That is what I mean by post sleeve life! Eating and drinking have not come easy to me so yes my daily life is still consumed with it. I hope this all makes some sense!

I am 9 months out and still have 1 Protein smoothie everyday and once or twice a week I add in a Protein Bars. Post life is diff for everyone. A lot of people get mad when they hear other complaining this far out about having a hard time eating enough as they are fighting the opposite battle, but that is still a struggle for me. I just came off a month long vacation and I didn't pay much attention to my eating. Most days I was only able to get in about 500 calories when I wasn't really thinking about my eating. This may be a life long issue for me anyways just wanted to let you know that your not alone in that struggle, by the way great job so far!

[diddylou 6]

I have very little sag' date=' my arms is my only issue. The running has tightened everything else up nicely <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/biggrin.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' /> I am leaning toward fatigue being my issue! Even being 6 months out I still have trouble getting enough calories and now I have added running! I am working on getting the calories and the fluids down! That is what I mean by post sleeve life! Eating and drinking have not come easy to me so yes my daily life is still consumed with it. I hope this all makes some sense![/quote']

When did you start running. I want to run a 5k then work myself up. I will be 14 days out Tom. I am already walking as fast and as much as I can!!

[djsacco 32]

When did you start running. I want to run a 5k then work myself up. I will be 14 days out Tom. I am already walking as fast and as much as I can!!

I am 6 months post op. I started walk/running about 6 weeks ago. I have completed 2 5k's. I could have started earlier but I was fatigued and honestly just scared to do anything physical. Good luck. You can do it.. Just remember to go extra slow. My run is actually slower than my walk. But a mile is a mile no matter how long it takes to get there

[djsacco 32]

Okay, this is a sensitive subject but I what I will say is we judge ourselves much much much harder then potential partners do. I have a boyfriend who didn't know me when I was heavy. I made a big deal out of warning him about all the ugly skin etc.and it seems it is a much bigger problem in my own mind then his.

So, during the weight loss journey you go through a lot of head games - be patient and let your brain catch up with your body.

You are right! I judge myself much harder than I did 72 pounds ago. I look in the mirror and see every flaw. I didn't do that before! Possibly that is part of my problem.

[djsacco 32]

I am 9 months out and still have 1 Protein smoothie everyday and once or twice a week I add in a Protein Bars. Post life is diff for everyone. A lot of people get mad when they hear other complaining this far out about having a hard time eating enough as they are fighting the opposite battle, but that is still a struggle for me. I just came off a month long vacation and I didn't pay much attention to my eating. Most days I was only able to get in about 500 calories when I wasn't really thinking about my eating. This may be a life long issue for me anyways just wanted to let you know that your not alone in that struggle, by the way great job so far!

I wonder if it will always be an issue for me?! I just can't handle much food. I try but it just hurts. It is getting better. I actually got down almost 900 the other day. I felt so much better!

[HatheryOnHerWay 603]

So I don't know if I am the oddball or what..but my boyfriend and I had a very active sex life before surgery and if it is even possible I want it MORE..MUCH MORE..after surgery.

The weight loss is part of it but the thing I love is how much more flexible I am and how we can use different positions and how Tanga panties look on me etc.

I will admit that my boyfriend thinks I have lost my ever loving mind and is sometimes afraid to come to my house lol..but I think a lot of this is mental for me' date=' that I want it more because I feel he desires me more.

Work on getting that food and calories in and Multivitamins too! I am 5 months out and drink one shake a day to recover from work outs but I get in around 130 grams of Protein and 1,200 calories. I have so much energy![/quote']

How on earth do you get in 130 grams of protein daily only drinking 1 shake?!?

[diddylou 6]

You are right it doesn't matter the speed. It doesn't matter how you start it's how you finish!!