blog post - what not to say to a friend who has had weight-loss surgery

[jenlen 58]

Excellent blog post.. but everyone please note: Serendipity Happens welcomes everyone to tell her how fabulous she looks.. as long as it's not from the Korean lady who came into my store the other day and told me "oooh, you look good now, not so fat like before.. before you was sooooooooooo fat." I kid you not.

sorry but this really made me LOL! There always has to be one of those people whose honesty knows no bounds.

[NewStarter 17]

Excellent blog post.. but everyone please note: Serendipity Happens welcomes everyone to tell her how fabulous she looks.. as long as it's not from the Korean lady who came into my store the other day and told me "oooh, you look good now, not so fat like before.. before you was sooooooooooo fat." I kid you not.

That is hilarious! I think it's blog-worthy!

[mrs.petethecat 62]

Thanks for the chuckle and Happy Birthday!

[journeybegins05032013 8]

I have lost 40 lbs in about 2 months, people are gradually starting to notice, and I decided from the start that I wanted to keep my surgery generally to myself. I am worried that soon I am going to have to deal with all that... thanks for sharing. I am obviously not alone in thinking that people can so obnoxious with how they talk to others.

[HatheryOnHerWay 603]

OMG, the "I feel so bad eating in front of you" thing or giving me the frowny sad face drives me NUTS!

[moonlitestarbrite 902]

I have lost 40 lbs in about 2 months' date=' people are gradually starting to notice, and I decided from the start that I wanted to keep my surgery generally to myself. I am worried that soon I am going to have to deal with all that... thanks for sharing. I am obviously not alone in thinking that people can so obnoxious with how they talk to others.[/quote']

my friend who had surgery 2.5 years ago and has lost 150 pounds says, "why thank you for noticing how hard i am working at being healthy! i have changed everything in my life. its not easy!" and then she compliments the other person or starts talking about something else.

[varg 16]

If i get a negative opinion from someone who disagrees with the surgery i simply state "i didn't ask for your permission or input on the matter" if they push the issue I tell them to go "F*ck themselves" and let that be the end of it.

[Canary Diamond 186]

Thank you, thank you, thank you for this. People who've never been seriously overweight (or underweight, or paraplegic, or victims of 3rd degree burns, or sufferers of a host of physical aberrations that make one hyper-sensitive about one's appearance) often have no tact in such matters. I would NEVER make a comment about another person's body. I might say, "That color is great on you!" or, "You seem tired today," (not you LOOK tired today) or "You have something green stuck in your teeth," but never a comment that insinuates I presume to understand or mirror another's self-image.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

I just loved your blog!!! There used to be rules about making comments to people about personal body issues. Now it's just a free-for-all. Along with Money Management, I think we need etiquette classes. Whatever happened to tact and diplomacy. Our grandmothers had decorum - they had the good sense not to say whatever popped into their head.

You've obviously not met too many little old ladies from the South! Bless your heart!

[moonlitestarbrite 902]

or little old korean ladies either apparently!

[LatteMadonna 25]

Thanks everyone! I just got fed up with the comments. I got a "keep it up!" again today. I smiled and laughed afterward. People are clueless. I really couldn't believe no one had written on this subject before.

[zenandnow 514]

I just loved your blog!!! There used to be rules about making comments to people about personal body issues. Now it's just a free-for-all. Along with Money Management' date=' I think we need etiquette classes. Whatever happened to tact and diplomacy. Our grandmothers had decorum - they had the good sense not to say whatever popped into their head.[/quote']

I think my grandma missed those classes; she used to say 'you're getting fat". "You're getting fatter". "You're REALLY fat".

She was a lovely woman. We really miss her.

[kimbernada 190]

Excellent blog post.. but everyone please note: Serendipity Happens welcomes everyone to tell her how fabulous she looks.. as long as it's not from the Korean lady who came into my store the other day and told me "oooh, you look good now, not so fat like before.. before you was sooooooooooo fat." I kid you not.

Ha... This is something that one of my grandmas would have probably said.

[moonlitestarbrite 902]

I think my grandma missed those classes; she used to say 'you're getting fat". "You're getting fatter". "You're REALLY fat".

She was a lovely woman. We really miss her.

lol. myfather's mother was like this. she was born in austria, and was one of the most blunt and tactless women i ever met. but she was awesome too. we werent close, she and my dad fought a lot. but i would have liked to have gotten to know her better before she passed. she would tell me how wonderful my mom was and what a dope my dad was. very amusing.

[Nursebarbie 392]

Flippin awesome! Love the head transplant comment. Mind if I use that when I go back to work?????? Lol....