Hello VSG world! I had my surgery September 3, 2012. I have since lost 100 lbs and I am super super happy and excited! I can wear cute clothes, I feel good about myself and I can finally say I am beautiful! But...I am shy! I have been single for a while and feel ready to be loved and hugged. But I can't look at a guy without blushing. And maybe that's why they are not coming close The women at work are very supportive and always say how pretty I look but I want the men to notice and me not be shy enough to flirt! Lol Well I got that off my chest, any tips on flirting?

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I'm in Texas! I need to find a local coach lol!

I'm in Texas! I need to find a local coach lol!

Lol.

I too was shy but since losing the weight I have gained confidence. My one friend told me to just be myself and to put myself out there. I have met some guys and am doing stuff I would have never had the guts to do before. Here are some of my tips

When I go out with friends I always look my best and have a blast with them Giggle, smile, dance, sing...and if a guy makes eye contact smile at him, look away for a second, then look back and smile...if he is interested he will approach.

If you are dancing and a guy comes up to you to dance have a series of hand gestures with your friends...one that says help get me out of here another that says I am ok.

The one that I found most useful was to just let go and have fun. Don't read too much into it. Don't think too much. You don't have to say much. Listen, maybe touch his arm or hand. Smile, play with your hair. Respond to his questions. If you blush that is ok too. Remember guys get shy and nervous too. If a guy is really interested in you he will be very obvious. Also I am pretty oblivious when it comes to guys flirting. My friends had to point out to me that guys were checking me out, so chances are you are being checked out. Have fun

I wish you were in FL! I would be your coach! I seriously think flirting is an art form. I was in Malta for work and the men were delicious and my colleague was also very shy and was so blown away at how I "work the room" and would get us free drinks everywhere we went. She told me to write a book. After 2 weeks with me, she picked up a few tips.

Another really easy way to practice is on waiters or bartenders (in non crowded bar). Pay attention to the waiters name and address him by it. When he asks if you are ready to order reply with "Michael, if this is my last meal, what must I have from this menu. I am putting my last meal in your hands so don't let me down" he'll know you are playing around but it's fun. I did this last night and the waiter wanted to suggest everything we ate after that! You can keep it up after he comes over to see if you like it and respond "delicious, will you come with me everywhere I order" or "I knew I was in goods hands with you Michael".

Waiters are captive audiences and used to most people ignoring them or being rude so they love a nice customer, let alone a pretty girl! Plus, you are required to talk to them so there's no awkward approaching a stranger obstacle.

With a bartender, you can say something like "I don't want anyone else making my drinks but you. Take care of me, and I'll take care if you. And make sure no one slips me anything"

As everyone else said smiling and eye contact go a long way.