IS ANYONE EMBARRASSED TO TELL PEOPLE YOU ARE HAVING THE SURGERY? I WORK WITH A LOT OF PEOPLE AND HAVEN'T TOLD ANYONE. I HAVEN'T EVEN TOLD ALL MY SISTERS OR MY BEST FRIEND. I GUESS I'M A LITTLE EMBARRASSED AND ALSO DONT WANT EVERYONES OPINION OF WHETHER I SHOULD DO IT OR NOT. I ALMOST FEEL LIKE IM HIDING THIS HUGE BAD SECRET.

My 81 year old, eccentric but lovable brother-in-law announces loudly to everyone, anywhere, anytime that my stomach is like a banana and my RNY wife's stomach is like a shot glass and we did it to ourselves.

They normally just look at me like I'm a specimen from the Ripley's Museum.

It's a good thing that I don't give a rat's backside what people think about it.

I'm curious about something.

Does it matter how other ppl feel about your WLS decision/journey?

In a sense it doesn't matter what they think because either way I'm going to do it. But I do have to see these people 40+ hours a week and the negative comments would bother me. I really don't want to come to work and feel the negativity bring me down. I won't lie about it. I just don't have to tell them.

I was just having this convo with my husband. I really don't feel like explaining to everyone who asks me how I lost all the weight (down the road) all my personal business. I can't stand lying either. However, I have been very honest with my family and trusted friends, but random people don't need to know.

3 1/2 yrs ago I was banded. I told everybody, including my mailman! This time (awaiting sleeve revision due to a slip), I made the mistake of telling my family and best friend. They all think that wls is too severe for having 30 lbs to lose and that I should do it on my own. I tried that for 40 yrs, didn't work for me.I do think that GB is too severe for 30 lbs and they don't see a difference. To non-wls'ers, wls is all gastric bypass or "stomach stapling".

I wish I had just kept it a secret. A few friends also know, but it's hard to describe what you're doing. Good luck!

I only told a few select people. I suddenly found myself in a dilemma a couple of days when some moms at the school got curious because I couldn't drive. I don't need the additional stress from gossips or even well meaning people. I had not considered the possibility that someone would actually ask questions so quickly.

So - I lied. I know in a year or do I will come clean. Just wasn't ready so quickly.

I told my mother brother and ex and that will be it......was trying to figure out a way to not tell my dad bc we work at the same job....i didn't wanna lie but i think i will be saying im on an unpaid vacation..... However i don't intend to not tell ppl I've had wls once im losing and they ask im not ashamed i just don't need the negativity right now ppl will go as far as offering u bad food cakes and cheese steaks and think they are being funny so i choose to keep it quiet until im sleeve then IM COMING OUT I WANT THE WORLD TO KNOW GOT TO.LET IT SHOW LOL

IS ANYONE EMBARRASSED TO TELL PEOPLE YOU ARE HAVING THE SURGERY? I WORK WITH A LOT OF PEOPLE AND HAVEN'T TOLD ANYONE. I HAVEN'T EVEN TOLD ALL MY SISTERS OR MY BEST FRIEND. I GUESS I'M A LITTLE EMBARRASSED AND ALSO DONT WANT EVERYONES OPINION OF WHETHER I SHOULD DO IT OR NOT. I ALMOST FEEL LIKE IM HIDING THIS HUGE BAD SECRET.

I feel the same :/ but I told people because I have hid behind all this weight issues for so many years that at this point screw it this is my life and I have to do what I feel is best for me. With all that said I still feel almost embarrassed or shame:/ think some family members think it's a faze. A friend ... Well old friend said " wow, what's wrong with good old fashion diet & exercise ". Seriously come on people. I just try to shutt it down. Chin up , time for you

IS ANYONE EMBARRASSED TO TELL PEOPLE YOU ARE HAVING THE SURGERY? I WORK WITH A LOT OF PEOPLE AND HAVEN'T TOLD ANYONE. I HAVEN'T EVEN TOLD ALL MY SISTERS OR MY BEST FRIEND. I GUESS I'M A LITTLE EMBARRASSED AND ALSO DONT WANT EVERYONES OPINION OF WHETHER I SHOULD DO IT OR NOT. I ALMOST FEEL LIKE IM HIDING THIS HUGE BAD SECRET.

Ps, feel like I am analyzed for every bite I put in my mouth.

I told one. This one is going to the grave with me. People can be mean, intentionally & unintentionally.

My advice is to tell no one...once you tell someone...it's out there, you can't take it back...

Best of luck to you. Do what you feel is best for you & your life.

I told one. This one is going to the grave with me. People can be mean' date=' intentionally & unintentionally.

My advice is to tell no one...once you tell someone...it's out there, you can't take it back...

Best of luck to you. Do what you feel is best for you & your life.[/quote']

I have only shared with my fiancé. No one else knows.

I told my family first and than told everyone I can tell . Bc I was so excited to get it done .... And I can careless what anyone thought because its my body and Im the one that had to deal with it . not anyone else

I told just about all of my family & friends. Some coworkers & the rest need not to know. If they ask then ill answer truthfully...

Its like some ppl look down on u for choosing this route..

Im just trying to save my life & live!

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I was so ready to tell no one at all and to keep it to myself. And then when people started asking me why I was getting smaller, instead of saying I've been smoking crack like I originally planned. I started telling them about the surgery it would just come out like word vomit lol so now most people know.

I was so ready to tell no one at all and to keep it to myself. And then when people started asking me why I was getting smaller' date=' instead of saying I've been smoking crack like I originally planned. I started telling them about the surgery it would just come out like word vomit lol so now most people know.[/quote']

Lmao i think ill say that first then.tell them about the surg lol too funny lol

IS ANYONE EMBARRASSED TO TELL PEOPLE YOU ARE HAVING THE SURGERY? I WORK WITH A LOT OF PEOPLE AND HAVEN'T TOLD ANYONE. I HAVEN'T EVEN TOLD ALL MY SISTERS OR MY BEST FRIEND. I GUESS I'M A LITTLE EMBARRASSED AND ALSO DONT WANT EVERYONES OPINION OF WHETHER I SHOULD DO IT OR NOT. I ALMOST FEEL LIKE IM HIDING THIS HUGE BAD SECRET.

I am still pre-op, getting all the appointments in to satisfy the insurance...........I have told my sister (who had an RNY) and my husband......I don't have children, and I haven't told the rest of the family, because I saw how "supportive" they were when she had her surgery.........right now don't have any plans to tell anyone at this point, but that could change........if it would help someone, then I would.

I have found when there is a major change in someone's life, people tend to focus on that, and I'd rather not have to defend my actions or have them focus on this...........good luck!