Just needed to vent....

[Capricornrose 59]

I am about 4-5 mths preop. I don't have a surgery date yet. I just ate 3 4pks of the Peanut Butter twix. I am soooo embarrassed. I'm scaring myself. How will this surgery work out for me???

[shays4265 26]

From what I have seen and read. You will do great. Don't stress the stuff you do before surgery. After surgery you will be a different you.

[No game 14,436]

I am about 4-5 mths preop. I don't have a surgery date yet. I just ate 3 4pks of the Peanut Butter twix. I am soooo embarrassed. I'm scaring myself. How will this surgery work out for me???

Eating or binging... These are behaviors that you need to start working on now.. This surgery is a tool to help aid you in weight loss but not a CURE. food addiction is still something that needs to be addressed.

[No game 14,436]

I feel I should say, that does not mean you are NOT a good candidate for the surgery! It just means that additional mental work needs to happen hand in hand with the surgery:)

I say this as a sleever of almost 6 months and as a person dealing with food addiction.

[Capricornrose 59]

Thank you guys! I don't know if I've started the food funeral early in my mind. It seems that I'm eating worse now than I ever have. Let me say eating that much candy at one time is a first for me. I agree on the mental work. I'm making slow progress in that area. Don't quite have the funds for copays often. I was thinking of finding a friend to call whenever I get in this state and not binge on sweets. That will give me an alternative to making negative choices. Re: being successful my mind goes back and forth on that. I believe in my heart that I'm going to be successful, which means giving up some things that I've held onto for many years. That's what scares me also.

[No game 14,436]

Having a friend to talk to is a great idea! I often come here when I'm having a hard moment with wanting to sneak chocolate (I say sneak because I hide my binge behaviors) you can also go to support groups in you area many are free or low cost. I also read a book called "Anatomy of a food Addiction: The Brain Chemistry of Overeating"

Which was really helpful for me..

[tigerbelle 328]

Capricornrose, I understand your feelings...I am scheduled for Monday...I told my therapist yesterday that one of my fears is that when I am sleeved, my "comforter" (food) will not be available for me...and what will I do when I am anxious, or sad, or bored, or lonely? food has been there for me (in an unhealthy way of course) for as long as I can remember...I start feeling overwhelmed, and that is when I step back and say to myself: you will get through this--take it one day at a time...I am not sure if you are a spiritual person or not, but for me, I try to put it in the hands of God

[tigerbelle 328]

I also read a book called "Anatomy of a food Addiction: The Brain Chemistry of Overeating"

Which was really helpful for me..

laura, how did the book help you? I ask because I have read similar books on emotional eating and overeating...I always understand what the author is saying and it helps me put words to some of my own feelings, but I haven't found any of those books to actually give me tools or practical guidance to overcome the issues

[No game 14,436]

laura' date=' how did the book help you? I ask because I have read similar books on emotional eating and overeating...I always understand what the author is saying and it helps me put words to some of my own feelings, but I haven't found any of those books to actually give me tools or practical guidance to overcome the issues[/quote']

Well I will say that it does go into our ways of self comforting with food, but it also talks about how the food that we are choosing affect our brain chemistry...

It gives you exercises and ways to get away from sugars and refined carbs..

[No game 14,436]

Book description.....

If you have struggled with compulsive eating, dieting, and the guilt and conflict they bring, your life will be changed by this important, life-affirming, and astonishingly wise book.

Anne Katherine, a Certified Eating Disorders Therapist and former compulsive eater, explains the chemical reactions in the brain that work in conjunction with lifelong emotional conflicts to make food—particularly sugar and refined carbohydrates—such a comfort that it's almost like a drug.

Once you realize that your binge eating is a physical disease that can be treated, you can use the book's self-tests, exercises, examination of family issues, and complete recovery program for newfound understanding and confidence.

[Capricornrose 59]

Today went a lot better.

[No game 14,436]

Today went a lot better.

Good! that's how to do it! Just take it day by day, don't let a moment of eating ruin your resolve the next day