I thought it might be a good idea to have a thread where we could discuss the different challenges/issues we face as being single and banded.

I'll start with introducing myself. My name is Chris, I am 32 and live in a suburb of Boston. About a year ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and have just casually dated (online dating) since then. I have decided to take a break from dating for a bit, so I can focus on myself and adjust to living life as a bandster. (I was just banded on 10/2). One of my biggest concerns when I start dating again is if/when to tell that I am banded. It's not that I don't want to tell people, it's just that my idea of great dinner conversation does not include discussing my weight. Overall I would say that I have a great life. I have a good job, a very supportive family, and lots of friends. I am happy to be taking control over my weight and issues with food, and am excited at the prospect of my future as a not-so-fat woman.

I look forward to meeting more single bandsters and hope this thread takes off!

Chris :cocktail:

Yeah, pretty much none of us has told anyone we are dating. Once a good relationship is established, some have told and they have been understanding. As for me, I haven't even been able to find anyone to date!

As for me, I haven't even been able to find anyone to date!

Ha ha ha I hear you!

I'm in the middle of a drought - it's killing me! :thumbup:

I got a free 3 month subscription to Match.com. I got an email saying if I tried this face cream , and only paid the $5 shipping, they would give me a free membership. So I signed up. I need to figure out a way to sneak in

my email address. Most people around here have profiles listed, but don't pay, so they can't receive messages.

Any ideas on how I can do that?

I got a free 3 month subscription to Match.com. I got an email saying if I tried this face cream , and only paid the $5 shipping, they would give me a free membership. So I signed up. I need to figure out a way to sneak in

my email address. Most people around here have profiles listed, but don't pay, so they can't receive messages.

Any ideas on how I can do that?

Set up a free yahoo e-maill address to use for match.com use only. Of course if you post a picture they can still find you.

That's the problem. Match wants everyone to pay their fee. After you pay, you pick up your messages at Match. You aren't allowed to give out your email address. I have seen people sneak it in while they are describing themselves. I could set up a new yahoo address. One guy said you can find me at the y place if you look for (he had a bunch of letters strung together) Nobody around here wants to pay, so their profiles are useless.

Gotcha! I misunderstood. My thoughts are that anyone really serious about looking is going to pay the money. I probably wouldn't date someone that was to cheap to pay or couldn't afford the fee. Put a great profile that will make them want to pay to meet you. I'm sure once they check you out they will pay. :wink_smile:

are you good at writing? I could use some help in jazzing up my profile.

I could give you my sign in name if you wanted to take a look at it.

The part about me reading is something they changed when I sent it in for approval. I don't want to fix it yet cause I messaged a couple of guys.

I suck at writing profiles. Mine are always practically blank. I can never think of what to write. I'll take a look at it if you want me to. Sometimes it is easier to do it for other people.

I've basically just come to the point where I'm tired of looking. I'm going in the route of not looking and hopefully one day, someone will come to me when I least expect it. I hear that I'm so beautiful all of the time but nobody ever hits on me. My confidence level has definately gone up, so I don't know what the deal is. Maybe the guys in Houston are wusses :-)

Missy, I'm in Houston and yes they are wusses! :biggrin:

Missy, I'm in Houston and yes they are wusses!

HAHA YES! I KNEW IT WASN'T JUST ME! BUT FOR REAL, WHAT IS THE DEAL WITH MEN? THEY WILL STARE ME DOWN ALL NIGHT IF I GO OUT BUT NEVER SAY ONE WORD TO ME. MAYBE THEY'RE JUST SO STUNNED BY MY BEAUTY! HAHA J/K. WHO KNOWS....MAYBE ONE DAY MY PRINCE CHARMING WILL COME...:biggrin:

HAHA YES! I KNEW IT WASN'T JUST ME! BUT FOR REAL, WHAT IS THE DEAL WITH MEN? THEY WILL STARE ME DOWN ALL NIGHT IF I GO OUT BUT NEVER SAY ONE WORD TO ME. MAYBE THEY'RE JUST SO STUNNED BY MY BEAUTY! HAHA J/K. WHO KNOWS....MAYBE ONE DAY MY PRINCE CHARMING WILL COME...:cursing:

So go hit on them. Why should the guys get all the rejection?

So go hit on them. Why should the guys get all the rejection?

I'm so freaking scared of rejection. Actually on Wed night, I finally got the courage to go up to some guy and he was nice but didn't ask for my number....

manatee, guys usually end up with the rejection since they tend to be the crueler ones when doing the rejecting while showing off in front of their friends so once that happens, most women just say screw it, let them do the aproaching instead.

As a complete aside -- why don't wine bottles have nutritional value labels on them? I want to know precisely how many empty calories I chose to have instead of supper :thumbup: :thumbup:

(Ha! Can't walk, but can still type!)

you look at her body language, is she leaning in or leaning back are her arms open or crossed, is she saying back off. Go for the hug and kiss on the cheek and see what happens from there.. it works for me

Heather