I thought it might be a good idea to have a thread where we could discuss the different challenges/issues we face as being single and banded.

I'll start with introducing myself. My name is Chris, I am 32 and live in a suburb of Boston. About a year ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and have just casually dated (online dating) since then. I have decided to take a break from dating for a bit, so I can focus on myself and adjust to living life as a bandster. (I was just banded on 10/2). One of my biggest concerns when I start dating again is if/when to tell that I am banded. It's not that I don't want to tell people, it's just that my idea of great dinner conversation does not include discussing my weight. Overall I would say that I have a great life. I have a good job, a very supportive family, and lots of friends. I am happy to be taking control over my weight and issues with food, and am excited at the prospect of my future as a not-so-fat woman.

I look forward to meeting more single bandsters and hope this thread takes off!

Chris :cocktail:

What happened to this thread? Does everyone have someone but me?

Does everyone have someone but me?

Nope, but I'm not bothering to look anymore, so I have nothing much to post.

No, I sure don't . I have been writing to a couple of guys from Match

but they sure don't seem to want to meet. It's annoying.

I don't yet either...but I usually only log on here during the end of the week ( Wed - Sat) when I am at work.

But I really haven't been actively looking either. I have been so preoccupied with my daughter's softball the last 2 months (she has games and practices 4-5 days a week) and church that I have given up on looking for a while.

I still have my personal ads posted on yahoo and on EHarmony but I am not a paid member on EHarmony so all the responses and matches I have received and wanted to respond to I haven't been able to. I am hoping to be able to soon though.

Enough of my boring story.... how is everyone else doing? How have you been lately Denise and Manatee?

April

Edited April 29, 200818 yr by smilin_apple
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I have an account with Plenty of Fish and Singlesnet. Met a few people from Plenty of Fish but none worth bragging about.

I don't know what's going on with these guys I have been writing to.

They have seen my picture and say they want to meet, but so far it

hasn't worked out.

Missy, I too am on my own right now, and am quite ok with it, I'm pretty busy taking classes, caring for my dogs, working full time and chillin with my peeps, I kind of fell like right now a boy would just take up too much of my time, enjoy your time on your own, it's better to wait for the right person than just being with someone so you don't have to be on your own.

Athinnerdenise: plenty of the guys on the sites are not exactly serious about meeting the people they communicate with, don't take it personally, email with them but start to talk and then meet pretty quickly so you can see if they are really serious about dating in real life and not just online and so you can see if your really interested in them.

Good luck to both of you!!

Nope, but I'm enjoying doing the things I want to for a change, not even thinking about taking anyone else's concerns seriously! May sound selfish, if so, so be it. Taking off in a couple of weeks to go home for a while (FL) to do some work on my retirement place. My 5 acres are paid for, hope to get well, septic and electric in and concrete poured for storage shed, plus mark spots for a few extra trees while I'm there. Nice and private, only 3 neighbors within a one or two mile radius (lots are 2 1/2 to 7 1/2 acres in size) so will only see people if I "want" to. I have been living in the DC area, all cooped up, for too long. Plus I hate cold weather. My last boyfriend didn't come back from Iraq his second time around and I still miss him even though it's been almost 2 years. We were together for 6 years, so I'll admit it's been kind of hard to get serious about anyone I've met since. Oh well, stuff happens. I'm just really trying to take care of myself and figure I will know when I'm ready to look for another relationship. Sorry this post is so long, just wanted you to know you're not alone. Take care. Laura

I got an email from one of the guys today. He is the one I am the most interested in. He wants to meet thurs. night. Let's see if he cancels out again!

On an impulse Tues I sent an email to Blind Date Girl (from the one date back in Nov), just kinda giving her a ping to see how she was doing. Surprisingly, she was happy to hear from me, and we've now got something scheduled for next weekend. We'll see if she cancels this one too.....

Ooooh, both Denise and Manatee have dates this week. That's exciting! I'm pulling for you both!

I thought I should pop in and give a quick update. Things are still going great with Curtis and I, and I am actually moving in by the end of this month. I'm very excited and happier than I've ever been in any relationship. I am glad I waited to meet someone who really, truly knows how to treat me right. It was worth all the time it took.

Edited May 7, 200818 yr by chrispygal

Nope, BlindDateGirl canceled this one too. Done with her.

You look happy C, good for you

Aww how sweet Chrispy! Glad to hear you're happy and in love.

I've recently met a guy from Singlesnet. Really have hit it off so far...we'll see where it takes us :-)

manatee, good call being done with your blind date girl, just means your life wouldn't be any better for meeting her.

Good luck!

Well I finally met one of the guys from Match. I thought he was cute

but our personalites just didn't click. It seems like the other two I was

emailing with have disappeared. I know that more likely the reason one of them stopped writing was I kept asking for a picture. I am done meeting people that I have never even seen a picture of. The other one claims to be very busy. Why they bothered putting a profile on a dating site if they are too busy to mee,t but would rather keep emailing, is beyone me.