I thought it might be a good idea to have a thread where we could discuss the different challenges/issues we face as being single and banded.

I'll start with introducing myself. My name is Chris, I am 32 and live in a suburb of Boston. About a year ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and have just casually dated (online dating) since then. I have decided to take a break from dating for a bit, so I can focus on myself and adjust to living life as a bandster. (I was just banded on 10/2). One of my biggest concerns when I start dating again is if/when to tell that I am banded. It's not that I don't want to tell people, it's just that my idea of great dinner conversation does not include discussing my weight. Overall I would say that I have a great life. I have a good job, a very supportive family, and lots of friends. I am happy to be taking control over my weight and issues with food, and am excited at the prospect of my future as a not-so-fat woman.

I look forward to meeting more single bandsters and hope this thread takes off!

Chris :cocktail:

Sounds great Denise! Good luck to you. :biggrin:

Hey single bandsters! I have good news! I met a guy from match.com

He is attractive, dresses nice, seems very sweet and the best news of all, he wants to see me again. I am WAY excited!

Congrats Denise, I hope all works out for you two!

Me too. He told me he is going to delete his match profile. He has computer problems lately. I am going to offer the use of my computer

Denise that is great! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! :thumbup:

Thanks Crispy. He accidentaly sent me a message from match yesterday that he meant to send to someone else. It was very uncomfortable until I figured out that he must have meant it for someone else. It said that he had met someone on match and they spent the day together and he doesn't want to see anyone else. I thought how could he have spent the day with someone else when we were together all day.

He was really embarrassed when I asked if he meant to send that message to me!

Does that mean you are the one he spent the day with and would like to see you and only you????? :behindsofa:

Yes, that was what he said, when I asked him about it! I can see how easy it would be to do, when you don't use your real name on match.

You can go to your sent messages and figure out what you have said to someone, but he must have forgotten my user name since we started talking on the phone and went to regular email a few weeks ago. He was really embarrassed by it though.

Oh Denise that is so funny! And nice to know he really did send those emails out to the other people he was chatting with on match! I'm excited to see how this progresses.

It's going so well. I couldn't be more excited! I got my first kiss finally

day before yesterday, and several more yesterday. I haven't had any affection in so long. it felt wonderful!

He used my computer to delete his profile from match. I sat right next to him cause he asked for my help. He doesn't use a computer much.

We have planned out the whole weekend.

How are things going with you Chrispy? All moved in?

To any other single bandsters, the band is the greatest thing! Before banding, I would never put a profile on match and I asked my trainer if I should check the "few extra lbs" box and he said "hell no" That felt really good!

Yay Band!

It's going so well. I couldn't be more excited! I got my first kiss finally

day before yesterday, and several more yesterday. I haven't had any affection in so long. it felt wonderful!

He used my computer to delete his profile from match. I sat right next to him cause he asked for my help. He doesn't use a computer much.

We have planned out the whole weekend.

How are things going with you Chrispy? All moved in?

To any other single bandsters, the band is the greatest thing! Before banding, I would never put a profile on match and I asked my trainer if I should check the "few extra lbs" box and he said "hell no" That felt really good!

Yay Band!

That is definately an NSV :-) Congrats to you Denise.

Thanks Missy. I really never thought I would ever find anybody. I like in a little hick town and most guys are too cheap to pay for match. Plenty of Fish seems to have a bunch of losers from this town. I never go anywhere that I could meet someone, so I knew it had to be online or it would never happen. It's still all very new, but so far, the better I get to know him, the more I like him.

You're lucky to have gotten banded so young. All the guys my age are all broke from their ex wives getting everything in the divorce. That does kind of suck.

All the guys my age are all broke from their ex wives getting everything in the divorce. That does kind of suck.

lol:ohmy: that made me giggle

It does suck. I have this really nice guy in my life now that is completely broke. He makes lousy money at his job because this is a depressed economy and most jobs are minimum wage. I may have to start cooking. I don't want to embarrass him by telling him I can afford to pay for my own dinner.

Denise you have come such a long way, and I'm so proud of you! I think it was a confidence thing for you and girl, it seems you've got it! Whoo Hooo! I'm really happy for you!!!

Things are still great here. I am all moved in and we just got two kittens who are adorable. I'm far from being unpacked, but I have a feeling that is going to take a while. lol.

hi, my name is kris. i'm 37, single, no kids and live in cleveland, ohio. i got banded in april 2008 and it was the best thing i could have done for myself!

my new years resolution for 2008 was to focus on making ME a happier person... which to me meant no dating for a year. i'm halfway thru the year and i'm so happy. i'm happy that i can concentrate on myself and not have to worry about anyone else!

now that it's summer i do feel a little lonely though : (