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I'm going through a lot of things right now and I wanted to reach out to see if I could get some input or some wisdom from people who have been sleeved for a while. I was sleeved on August 27 and since then I have lost 83 pounds. I mentally know this is a solid number and it's something to be proud of. My issue lies in the fact that when I see myself I don't see any physical change really. I'm still wearing the same clothes. Although they are somewhat looser nothing really seems to be any different. I was super excited with the number I had lost but someone took a picture of me this past weekend and I was just shocked. I didn't see a change I just saw the same fat guy I always have so it kinda put me in a slump. Does anyone have any similar experience, advice etc?

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So how much did you way before? I was sleeved Aug 30th & have lost 56 lbs and can't believe the difference. The one thing I'm having a hard time with is shopping...i can't wrap my head around being in smaller sizes idk why, shopping should be the fun part. Anyway it is all a mental adjustment & that takes time. 86 lb loss is amazing in that amount of time & I can't imagine a # any higher being good or safe for your body...just relax & give yourself another 3-6 months. I know dropping that much weight your body has to at least feel better? Even if you don't see it right?

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Imjustme, I am sorry that you are so discouraged.

My doctor said some people lose weight first, then inches; that men usually lose the weight first.. I lost inches and not really much weight itself. Today is my 2 month "surgiversary" and I've only lost 35.6 pounds since the surgery. I have a lot of big clothes, though I did have to donate some big pants and tops. I am getting gift certificates for Christmas, so I will go clothes shopping then.

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Well I do physically feel better. I can walk now. I was amazed at something as small as walking through a store shopping and not being tired or in pain. It was honestly the photo that made me so questionable. I started at 475 give or take and I'm down to 390 ish. Depends on the scale.< /p>

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I am out 3 years and still feel that way. What others see and what i see are two different things. My thing is i "feel" better. I can get up on the horses and know I'm not over burdening them. I can close that airplane seat belt with about 7 inches left over. I can lower the tray and it's not hitting my stomach. There are many things I know have gotten better, but I still see the fat girl and I still don't like to look at myself in the mirror or reflections in the windows. It still embarrasses me and I've lost 150 lbs. Isn't it funny how the brain works and how all the years of abuse have affected our thinking? I totally understand!

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I wish my eyes saw what everyone else sees! I am told every other day wow you look good! My husband is my biggest cheerleader and I still see a short fat chick looking back at me.

I hope one day my way of thinking changes.... for my sake!

You are not alone in how you feel!

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You need to read Eat It Up! Focus on the facts: a) you have lost an AMAZING amount already. B) you feel better and c) you know to ask for help! You are AMAZING and are my hero. YOU decided to take responsibility for your health and are chosing to work on it every day! So one day at a time, sweet pea. One day at a time. And remember to revel in feeling great every day.

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Thanks for all the encouragement. I know this is a learning process, and it always will be. I'm just so grateful to have an outlet to reach out for help and have such amazing people supporting me. Thank you all.

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I looked at your profile page and you have started out at a higher BMI. So it might take a little longer to be absolutely apparent....But it will happen. All of a sudden you are going to be standing there and if you don't have a belt on, your pants will just fall off.....You will be losing inches really soon and none of your cloths are going to fit. This is called and NSV! Yet, you better get that pocket book ready! It will happen...... CONGRATS on losing 89 lb that is nothing to sneeze at! Heck, that's a lot more than I have lost totally.....So proud of you.....:)

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I'm going through a lot of things right now and I wanted to reach out to see if I could get some input or some wisdom from people who have been sleeved for a while. I was sleeved on August 27 and since then I have lost 83 pounds

hi imjustmee

congrats on your weight loss - glad you realize thats a HUGE number 83 lbs OMG- thats a great "start" totally cool!!!!

i can only imagine how you feel, have alittle more weight to lose - it can be discouraging at times not to "see" your loss - but you'll feel it, and see it as time goes by

your determined to do this, and i know you will be successful

all good things come to those who wait!!

GOD Grant me patience just hurry up about it :lol:

you will see a continuous, gradual change, and your weight and pants will fall down at the same time - so buy that belt :lol:

i admire you working with your new best friend the sleeve - make small goals - each goal will be a victory that you can be proud of (AKA non scale victory)ie being able to walk a longer distance than you could before

work hard

i'm behind you

i'll be the one waiting to receive your smile back to me :)

Good Luck

happy holidays

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