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Why are men such pigs!!!!

Having a conversation with my bf of almost 7 years about why we weren't engaged!!! I'm 31, he's 33! And He actually said 'but jess over the last year you have been putting on so much weight' as a defence for my ringless finger ????????

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I thought this was going to be a Pirate topic judging from the Subject Title! i want my money back!

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Thanks for your really unhelpful comment when I'm really upset.

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Why are men such pigs!!!!

Having a conversation with my bf of almost 7 years about why we weren't engaged!!! I'm 31' date=' he's 33! And He actually said 'but jess over the last year you have been putting on so much weight' as a defence for my ringless finger dde30dde33

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Toss that one back in the pond. You don't have to accept being loved less.

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That's terrible!! He should appreciate you for who your are and for staying with his hateful self. He doesn't deserve you and you deserve better. I'm thinking if he can act like this now, there is a good chance he not a keeper. Good luck to you in your weight loss journey.

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That's not love, that's more like borderline verbal abuse. Run now, get skinny and he will be so regretful. His loss, you're better than that!

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What does being heavy have to do with getting engaged?? NOTHING! Is he suggesting just because you are you don't deserve to be engaged? That's crap....wonder what else he thinks you aren't worthy of? I'd be re-examining the last 7 yrs of my life..life is short, don't waste any more time on someone who chooses to focus on the "outside" of a person instead of what really counts

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My current... "Thing" of 8 years told me we weren't official because I was fat. His words not mine. Funny thing is, and it took me a few years to really see this, not everyone is a ... Butt face like that. But... I am still with my "thing" it's hard to leave, so I feel your pain.

Do this for yourself and for no one else. When you start to feel better about you you'll really see that he's not all that there is out there for you.

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What an @ss.. And that's an excuse.

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Tell him you're about to lose some serious "weight" -- HIM. Dude needs to re-examine....

Hang Tough!

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I dated a guy for six months that would tell me if something happened between us I would never find anyone else as good as he was, that I would have to settle for some elderly man with no teeth. He wasn't trying to be funny, he was serious. A little stab here, another there. As long as he kept me in an insecure position and he had relationship power, he felt that he could say things that diminished me as a human being. But he wanted to marry me.

I finally had enough. No one should ever feel like they have to settle, that things are comfortable enough not to rock the boat, that they've been together this long so might as well.... All of that is bullshit. You don't get your life again. This is it. Why waste years? You are better off being emotionally healthy as a single person providing self-care and surrounding yourself with people who love and support you unconditionally.

If a man's commitment is conditional on your weight, then ...and I'll probably get a lot of heat for it ...but you might want to look at yourself for why you are willing to stay. It's easy to blame the guy, but half of the relationship is you accepting whatever is going on in it.

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