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Good luck with everything .......everything will work out for da best .....I'm da 1st case in da morning ....

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That was a little rude. She made it her choice to do it that way.

Just because you make a bad choice that does not make it right. She's married to the man and claims she plans on continuing to be. Would you want to be married to someone who would have major surgery and keep it a secret? That's not a relationship. If that's all you have don't complain because you are basically giving what you are getting back. I feel sad for everyone involved here.

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Iggychic you obviously don't know my life story or the people involved. I respect your opinion, but I wasn't asking for it. I just needed to vent. My husband can be a real a*****e sometimes and I just rather save myself the trouble of having to hear his **** the day of surgery. You must have an amazing, super supportive husband and that's great... I don't.

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Good luck with everything .......everything will work out for da best .....I'm da 1st case in da morning ....

Good luck!!!! Wishing you the best!!! :)

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Connie3... How old are your children...? Will you need help with them after surgery? I understand not telling many people about your surgery... I only told my husband, mom, my best friend of 15 years and my sister in law. I told my dad he had a nasty reaction to it but I honestly think he forgot already... I am not telling people, other then the people I really feel should know and they already do! I will tell people in my family after... I don't want or need to deal with their comments before!

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My kids are 10, 8, and 1. The older 2 will be in school and my mother watches the little one.

I will not tell my husband about the surgery, but he'll find out. My parents will be notified as soon as I'm out. My sister is the only one that knows and she's going to help pick the kids up from school, help with homework etc etc.

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Marriage is a partnership, not a domination. I would never consider forbidding my wife to do anything she wants. We may be married, but she's still an individual and is living her own life.

Good luck to you, and I'm glad you're getting some support with your kids.

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Iggychic you obviously don't know my life story or the people involved. I respect your opinion, but I wasn't asking for it. I just needed to vent. My husband can be a real a*****e sometimes and I just rather save myself the trouble of having to hear his **** the day of surgery. You must have an amazing, super supportive husband and that's great... I don't.

Apparently, you spelled those words correctly! LOL

Good luck!

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Connie3

I pray and wish you the best of luck! Sometimes we have to do what we have to do. And it could be that you husband wish for you to stay the same as you are because as your body decrease, your confidence/ self esteem will increase.

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Good luck to you. I don't believe you are doing anything wrong, your husband as made it clear that he doesn't want to know anything about the procedure. You told him your intentions, and he has made his feelings clear. Best of luck to you and please keep us posted.

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By now you must be in recovery. I'm sending good thoughts your way and I hope that your family comes around to supporting you.

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do what makes you happy, sometimes we do everything for everyone else and stay in the sad and unhappy place that never changes.

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