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@Connie3 ill pray all goes well with you I'm going for the seminar on January 8th Dr. Thomas Bass I hope it goes fast I really want the surgery I know how ya feel on not telling people my husband don't want me to get it he thinks ill leave him after losing the weight but I wont bit he still supports me but I'm refraining from telling a lot of people espeacially on his side of the family they'll make fun of me... I wish people could just understand how we feel.

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I'm so thankful for having this app and my Friday night Bariatric surgery classes. If I didn't have these places to vent I'd go nuts!!

My husband isn't supportive of my choice to have surgery and my parents aren't either. I'm pretty much alone in my journey. I've decided not to tell them my surgery day is a week from today. I'm supper excited about it' date=' but my husband trying to convince me not to do it just brings me down. We always end up in a fight and this time he said he doesn't want me to EVER mention the surgery again! Total ass, but whatever. He doesn't know what it is to struggle with weight your entire life!! I have 3 kids and I'm trying my best so that they won't have to go through what I went through!

Ok feeling a little better. :}[/quote']

Praying for you that all goes well can't wait to get my date!

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Hey Connie, how are you doing?

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Hi everyone.. I'm home now. :) Doing well. I have some pain on the left side under my ribs, but that's about it. Not hungry at all.. That's a nice feeling. :)

So guess who picked me up from the hospital?! My husband, sis and dad. :} They were really sweet and supportive. I was so surprised to see a smile on my husbands face. Lol

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so glad to hear your doing fine and that your hubby was there to greet you. you were on my mind...............goodluck sweetie

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Praise God, I am so happy everything turned out well for you

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That's great that he was there and smiling. He may not be "over it" yet, but it sounds like he's accepting it now. Many men don't know how to express fear, so maybe it came out as anger and denial. Good luck on your new life!

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Hi everyone.. I'm home now. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' /> Doing well. I have some pain on the left side under my ribs' date=' but that's about it. Not hungry at all.. That's a nice feeling. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' />

So guess who picked me up from the hospital?! My husband, sis and dad. :} They were really sweet and supportive. I was so surprised to see a smile on my husbands face. Lol[/quote']

Good for you and your family! Hopefully this will be a new beginning for your and yours. Best of luck.

Amanda Rae

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Just wanted to say... im sooo glad to hear that ur husband came around! I bet he was glad u honored HIS wishes of not wanting to hear anymore about it... even tho he was wrong, u worked it out the best way u could!!! Kudos to u n ur lucky family, who has a momma thats getting healthier!!! Hope u continue with a speedy recovery <3

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When I had my lap band I was alone too my husband was a total jerk !!!! But it was my choice as a person I wasn't happy with myself and he had a lot to do with it . But as time went on he got used to it . This year I had complications with my band I had it removed and graduated to a sleeve but my mom and sister have been great the first couple of days I would say 3/4 you will need someone to help u after that u are fine , at least I was because I had no help at night to get up to use the restroom he was nocked out and I am a lil hard A.. So I just did myself I'm 4 days out and I'm walking around have my meds right next to me I get up on my own , I showered the next day , make sure u have a microwave to heat your Soups and teas or etc . You just got to motivate yourself he is being selfish and worried a lil but they have to support us in our life's journey as well them ! Hang in there u will be just fine keep your head up hope your friend is right there with u at least a week for whatever u need ????good luck

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Just because you make a bad choice that does not make it right. She's married to the man and claims she plans on continuing to be. Would you want to be married to someone who would have major surgery and keep it a secret? That's not a relationship. If that's all you have don't complain because you are basically giving what you are getting back. I feel sad for everyone involved here.

I understand both sides but just as he is married to her and doesn't support her is wrong this is his wife ( for better or for worse , in sickness and in health , tell death do u part ) he could voice his opinion but support her either way even tho his upset. She should tell him she is having surgery and allow him to come to terms with it he will he is just being stubborn . As for family I think that's wrong I'm sure if something happened and they needed surgery she would support them. It's not right to disregard her surgery just because its for weight loss in any surgery you could die ! Any !! Just a thought and my own opinion I'm not rude or mean to fight over this but I think they should support each other always ! ????Good day

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Hi everyone.. I'm home now. :) Doing well. I have some pain on the left side under my ribs' date=' but that's about it. Not hungry at all.. That's a nice feeling. :)

So guess who picked me up from the hospital?! My husband, sis and dad. :} They were really sweet and supportive. I was so surprised to see a smile on my husbands face. Lol[/quote']

☺I knew it !!! He loves u as well as ur Fam they where just scared ! Great to here good luck

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Hi everyone.. I'm home now. :) Doing well. I have some pain on the left side under my ribs, but that's about it. Not hungry at all.. That's a nice feeling. :)

So guess who picked me up from the hospital?! My husband, sis and dad. :} They were really sweet and supportive. I was so surprised to see a smile on my husbands face. Lol

Thats wonderful news. I'm glad everything went well for you. Now how about the details from start to finish of your surgery.

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My hubby wants me 2 do it the narural way 2 & i don't have any support from no1 i am here 4 u if y need some1 2 talk 2 pls keep me posted on ur journey

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