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Not sure if I'm posting in correct area, but I'm interested in hearing stories from people who have had their VSG for long period of time. Perhaps, 5 plus years?

Because of my complications with the lapband that put me on my death bed twice and now going on near $100,000 of a hole in or savings, my husband is VERY reluctant to agree with my choice of being sleeved. FACT, I haven't even told him and I'm working on a December surgery date.

I need all the ammo ..err I mean details and such for a postive and informed presentation for him

I basically need to know everything .. The good and bad

Anyone out there who had a spouse or significant other who you had to convince?

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There are lots of people here that have had less than supportive spouses, families, friends, etc. With all your previous complications, I can see why your husband is very reluctant. My gut feeling says that maybe instead of hiding the fact you are working on setting up a sleeve date, you may be better served by including him in the process so he can talk to the surgeon and go to the meetings to ask his questions and get comfortable with the idea.

Shoes on the other foot, I would dig my heels in having this sprung on me purely on principle.

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I agree with geno when it comes to springing things on people. What research have you done on your own so far? I would look up through Google scholar and see the different articles that come up. I am lucky and am in Nursing School so I utilized my online library to find out information on it. If you know anyone in your area who has had it done have your husband talk to them. That is my advice.

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