I guess this is more of a vent or rant or whatever but the closer I get to my actual surgery the more I get the fear of failure. I know of 2 people personally who have been sleeved and are at least 6 months out and one of them actually gained weight and the other 40lbs and then started to gain again. One of these women exercise daily and eats properly yet she is gaining again. I know failure is usually due to wrong diet or not exercising but what if I do all of that and it doesnt work?? I have done my research and know the success rate is very high for sleeve and I try to stay as positive as much as I can but I still get that fear in the back on my head that I will be one of those who fail. I have an amazing husband who is supporting me throughout this whole process but he is the only support I have outside of this site. I have several friends however they have already expressed their opinion about wls on others who have had it and its not good so I have decided its none of their business so I am not telling them. I have another friend who had the full gastric (roux en y) and 1 month out she is eating cheese burgers and fries for lunch so she is not the support that I need thru this because she just ruined the tool that was given to her by the surgeon. I know this is the right thing for me for to do for myself and i plan on going thru with it but just afraid it wont work. I have been overweight my entire life and EVERYTHING that I tried did not work and I know this is true with all of you otherwise you would not have decided on surgery. Sorry again just a nagging thought in my head I had to get out.

I'm so glad that I have found 2 Sleeve Sisters, all in the same day!!! SoontobethinKAT and gigi4, I will definitely have to keep in touch with you two. That will help me walk a straight line, for sure.

Absolutely!! I have looked on some of the other threads and found out that everyone was having surgery on every day in September EXCEPT for Sept 21st lol I think it will help having 2 others having surgery the same day as me.

Fear of failure is normal. Remember before you go in that this is not magic. You still have to work at it but that doesn't mean you will fail. When I heard this before my surgery (That I would have to do some work too) I thought ...forget it then! I am weak and if I had any smidgeon of ability to control my food intake then I wouldn't need surgery! But here is the difference. You already DO have willpower and ability whether you know it or not. The fact that you are still alive and still reaching out for help proves it. Imagine if you tried to shovel your snowy driveway with a teaspoon. You would get frustrated and give up. But if someone suddenly gave you a snowblower you'd say "Ok! Now I'm in business!" You would still have to do some of the work BUT now you have the tool to help you. Suddenly your confidence will grow and you will find you had strength in there you didn't even know b/c too many years of failure had weighed you down and frustrated you. You can do it! If I can...anyone can. But know this--you will have to exercise. You will have to work at it mentally. You will have to forgive yourself for mistakes. But you can do it.

Love this response!! Puts everything into perspective

Great Topic! I'm new to this site too and often think I will fail. But trying to be optimistic. I have a question for LibbyLou - did you mean you lost 20lbs on "pre-op" and not "post-op". that is amazing. I don't think I can lose the require 10lbs before surgery - I'm trying and I don't even think 1lb has come off! Really??? Anyway, I'm counting on the 14day pre-op all liquid diet to bring me to the 10lb mark. I haven't heard of anyone not losing weight after they were sleeved. I mean how can you not: 85% of your stomach is removed, along with the hunger inducing hormone. I'm focusing on those positive things. And yes, exercise is not something I'm fond of, but just bought myself a new pair of sneakers

dlinnh,

Yes, I lost 20 lbs on the pre op. I followed it faithfully and I have about 100 to go (not decided yet). I think now I am only about 15 down because I am puffy from the fluids in the hospital. I only drank very high protein/low carb shakes and soups. Honesty, I think it was the hardest part so far, at least for my poor hubby when i went into carb withdrawal!

Good luck to all, we can do this!