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Damn Was I Really That Big?

ok so this is starting to get strange to me.. lol..

lately i have people comin up to me goin.. 'wow you lost a lot of weight...' and im thinkin ok.... i mean they tell me i look good, but im like im only down 46 lbs.. i know its a lot, but i guess i thought i always carried my weight pretty well cuz im very proportionate.. I mean i know i was a chunky girl, but damn WAS I REALLY THAT BIG????

Its just odd..I mean I was happy with my looks when i was chunky... and im happy with my looks now that im only slightly chunky..lol.. but still i guess i just never saw myself as being really big, but the fact that people make it seem like i was HUGE just kinda makes me feel uncomfortable..

I guess yea at 265lbs I was a big girl.. i guess its just odd now that i know how other people perceived me..

Does anyone else feel like this sometimes.. or am i just thinking about it too much?

this is me just a few days ago at my bands show...

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this is me at my heaviest.....

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i mean ok yea im definitely fatter, but i guess i just didn't see that i lost soooo much weight that its that its OMG noticable..i guess..but whatever...don't get me wrong i feel terrific and im not complainin about the loss... i guess i just feel awkward when people come up to me sayin.. 'damn you lost HELLA wait' and they do with that much emphasis on HELLA!!!!

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  • peacequeen
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    You have to admit,,you do look amazing,,even though you are a GORGEOUS girl before and after the weight loss.

  • Amanda131
    Amanda131

    I experienced the exact same feelings. I hate to say that it only gets worse. I really struggled when I put on my old "skinny" pants and they literally fell off. I struggled because I looked in the mi

  • Liliana Arleen
    Liliana Arleen

    It takes time for our brain to realize that we losing weight. Sometimes I still think that I do look the same as when I was 216 lbs. I can see a HUGE difference in your pictures You look amazing gir

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I was so darn huge before, and I definitely didn't perceive myself as being as big as I was. This was probably because I avoided being in pictures like the plague. Now that I have gone down 70 lbs I almost feel like I look bigger then before. That is until I look at a picture from before. The brain plays some pretty messed up games.

And seriously congrats on the weight loss :) So good!

You look awesome!

I don't think I realized just how big I really was until now - until I see pics from my daughter's birthday last summer (just a week before my surgery) and shudder. I also try to put my loss in a concrete perspective. For example, since I'm down 80 lbs I tried to pick up 2 of the 40-lb softener salt bags last weekend - one in each hand - and couldn't BELIEVE it. How in the heck did I carry all that excess weight on my body for so long without suffering more medical consequences?

I know exactly what you're saying!!

I'm just over 4 months postop and down 55lbs. I thought I wore my chub nicely but maybe not. I'm 5'6" and was 235#. In just the last month people have been "freaking out" about my weight loss, especially one friend who hadn't seen me in a month. A couple people have even called me the "S" word (skinny). I was thinking, "OMG, I must have looked large and in charge?" but then my sister set me straight. She thinks the pattern of my weight loss was that a little was coming off of everywhere then all of a sudden my waistline and butt shrunk fast. Sis says that I went from a thick middle to an hour glass in a short time, which is hard to miss. Yes, she is my sis and wouldn't want me to feel bad but I also know if I asked for the truth she will give it to me straight. I've seen other people lose weight in different patterns too. In fact, one guy I know only lost weight around his trunk leaving his extremities pretty much the same. He was bummed out when doing his measurements on his biceps but shocked about the six inches off his waisline. Anyways, there are my thoughts on this. You're not over thinking it. It's human nature to be curious about they way others see us. Plus it's really interesting to compare that to how we see ourselves.

You look smoking hot!! Keep up the good work!

You look great. I know I am/was in denial. Then I saw a photo ugh.

You look great. I had the same thing happen to me, it didn't really click until I saw pictures and mostly my face than I was like wow!!.

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That is until I look at a picture from before. The brain plays some pretty messed up games.

And seriously congrats on the weight loss :) So good!

thank you... yea its definitely a mind game sometimes.. and i just need to realize that people are going to notice a 50 lb drop..lol

You look awesome!

I don't think I realized just how big I really was until now - until I see pics from my daughter's birthday last summer (just a week before my surgery) and shudder. I also try to put my loss in a concrete perspective. For example, since I'm down 80 lbs I tried to pick up 2 of the 40-lb softener salt bags last weekend - one in each hand - and couldn't BELIEVE it. How in the heck did I carry all that excess weight on my body for so long without suffering more medical consequences?

the more that i look at my pics the more im starting to see what other people see .. its just seems sureal.. and i think its more of HOW people say their reaction.. like HOLY COW YOU LOST A LOT OF WEIGHT..im like damn people i mean i know but why you gotta make it sound like i was freaking hump back whale..lolol

I know exactly what you're saying!!

I'm just over 4 months postop and down 55lbs. I thought I wore my chub nicely but maybe not. I'm 5'6" and was 235#.

You look smoking hot!! Keep up the good work!

thank you.. i feel really good too.. i am 5'7 which isn't that much taller than you and at my highest weight 265 so i know that i was pretty big, but i have a lot of muscle which is why i guess when i told people how much i weight no one really ever believed me.. but its their reactions now that make me wonder if they were just being nice about it..lol

You look great. I know I am/was in denial. Then I saw a photo ugh.

Thank you... yea these photos are just messin with me now! im almost afraid to see what im gonna look like another 40 lbs down... LOL ALMOST.

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You look great. I had the same thing happen to me, it didn't really click until I saw pictures and mostly my face than I was like wow!!.

My face is definitely where i noticed it first. and yea its kind of a shocker to see the difference in pictures..im like hey look ma no double chin..lol

You look amazing! I just printed our pictures from vacation and comparing them to the pictures of me from vacation a year ago is wild. I actually wanted to be in pictures this year on vacation so I know there's a change!

Great work - you look fantastic.

We all must admit we were/ are large enough to need WLS......

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