I currently walk three days a week (2.7 miles) with a friend. We almost NEVER miss our morning walk. My surgery is Thursday in TJ and it's a SECRET from everyone except my sis, husband and parents. She thinks my sis and I are having a girls weekend in San Diego. She will want to walk Wed morning at our usual brisk pace and I doubt if I'll be up to it.

I adore my friend and we're pretty close. How can I tell her I'm not up to walking briskly without lying.

For myself the honest approach works best, but if you must really I would just pass saying you are not feeling well, make it a viral thing, because trust me it will be a bit before you up to par pre op pace.

I don't see it as an honesty issue,,I see it as it isn't their business issue.

My best friend is pissed I got the surgery. I was her eating partner for the last 18 yrs.

Hi, I am a walker too I was walking about 5 miles a day 5 day a week and have been for years. I was not up to walking my regular walk for about four weeks post op. A week out as you will be I could only manage a short five minute stroll. I understand not wanting to say anything but you may have to miss more then one walk and you definitely don't want to overdue it.

It's Saturday, Sept 3rd and I'm 2 days post-op and I feel great. I think I will be able to walk my 2.7 miles by Wednesday. I'm already walking about a mile at a good pace. I love Dr Kelly and his staff!

Good for you! Glad all went well and welcome to the losers bench. As far as your friend is concerned, do what you feel is best.

This would be radical, but if you are going to need 2-4 weeks before you could resume your regular walk, get ahold of a boot cast for the ankle of your choice. (If you will see her and she will expect to see the boot on your foot ) Tell her you won't be doing your walk from 2-4 weeks, depending on when you get the boot of your ankle. You could tell her the boot is a result of your trip with your sister. Then, when you feel up to walking with her again, vioula! your ankle will be healed and the boot cast put away.

I don't see it as an honesty issue,,I see it as it isn't their business issue.

Ok, perhaps we can switch out honesty and the work open? It just takes too much energy FOR ME PERSONALLY to keep up the story so to speak. I was just relating FOR ME it is too much. I mean really it is was it is, I have lost more than a person and have been able to provide info to and inspire other via my "openness" So for me and I was sharing only what works for me. I never meant to imply the original poster should do the same.

What really matters in this scenario is what is right for you. You are doing what you need to do to take care of yourself, and it is totally your choice to share or not to share such personal information.

I am scheduled for VSG on 9/15 in TJ, and only my parents, my son, and my brother know about it. I have yet to tell any of my friends. I may or may not after the procedure, i just haven't decided what i want to do. It has nothing to do with feeling unsupported or being concerned about others reactions. It just a very personal decision that i made after a very long period of consideration, and i still have my own feelings to sort out. For me, right now, i need to look after my own emotions, deal with the major changes ahead for me, and even though i am very secure in my decision to do this, i am still feeling a little overwhelmed by all of it. I don't really want to add the extra emotional energy, good or bad, to my plate right now.

You can be honest with your friend and tell her that you're worn out after your trip and would like to pick up the next week.

The definition of friendship does not include a "share all" clause, and a true friend who really loves you would understand your need to do what is best for you.

Good luck and i hope you are doing well!

Honey you do not have to tell anyone unless you don't want to.....tell her you will start again next week you are having stomach problems..

Myrori, I apologize, I didn't mean to make it sound like you were implying anything. I was just stating how I feel based on my own experiences telling my business to my friends and family before the fact of something I had planned on doing. Some people are very lucky, they have super support. My friends and family are supportive in some areas and great people but due to the nature of weight loss surgery in general and it's bad rap it's received in the past..I know some will make it a point to voice their opinion and some being negative. While I'm building my confidence to go through this, I just don't need them telling me I'm making a mistake..and they will. I may tell people eventually but I know they will have to see me actually lose the weight and live to tell the story before they agree with what I'm doing. Again, I'm sorry,,I re read my post and it sounded snappy and I didn't mean for it to.